Ok girls (and guys), this is something that's been in the back of my head recently. I've been dating my girlfriend for 3 months and we're about to the point where we are going to begin sexual stuff. I think we both care about each other and we can talk about things fairly openly but I am unsure how to handle this. I am uncircumcised, and given that I live in the United States, I know I am in the minority. Should I tell her in advance of us doing anything sexual that I am uncircumcised, or just let her find out when she sees it? I don't think she would like freak out or anything, but in the back of my mind I don't want her shocked either. How should I handle this?
2006-12-03 17:51:35 · 17 answers · asked by tyler w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-12-03 17:54:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Tyler! I have two teenage sons. Before they were born, I saw a show on circumcision, and how it's done. HELL NO would I have my infant boy strapped to a table and, well, you know! They are both uncircumcised. So is my Dad and brother. My ex husband was, but my bf of 5 yrs is not. All Americans. I understand the "concern" you're feeling, of looking 'different'. Know this, they're are more uncircumcised men then you may think out there. DON'T WORRY, it'll become a non issue in your life as soon. {ps. I have positive news for you. I've heard this point argued, but by circumcised guys. Uncircumcised penises are constantly covered by the foreskin until sex is about to happen. This makes the head more sensitive than circumcised ones, being constantly exposed. Sex still feels good to circumcised guys, but not quite as!!}
2006-12-04 02:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by isis8x3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always HOPE my new lover is circumsiced, but I have been with a man who wasn't at the time. Funny thing is waaaaay after we were through, he got clipped and felt he had to tell me about his surgery. I feel you should talk about it and all aspects of sex, birth control, pregnancy, and disease BEFORE you get jiggy with it. I'm 41, so I am giving you "grown people" advice. I hope you truely listen. Good luck.
BTW...I have a funny cyst on my leg and wanted it removed. My doctor said do it if your husband wants you to because he's the only one who can see it. I can't even see it, but I know it's there. Since I'm not married, I don't let what lovers might think influence my surgery decision. If I was in a commited relationship til death do us part, I'd care. Maybe you will be like my guy friend and get clipped one day, but do it because it matters to THE ONE...not just anyone!
2006-12-04 02:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No need to fret, buddy. It's just a little extra skin that us guys are naturally born with, it's not like you're some genetic freak. As for myself, I am a circumsised male. So I can't relate because my foreskin was stolen from me many moons ago. To help ease your mind, here's a few things I've read about it. Guys that still have their foreskin usually have more sensation and insertion during intercourse is easier because of the foreskin's gliding action. Once again, no worries. It's a natural part of your body
2006-12-04 02:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by TitoOrtiz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being uncircumcised. It's not something you should have to disclose like a disease. Believe it or not there are a lot of men in the U.S. that aren't circumcised and who were born here. Its nothing to worry about. If she doesn't want to be with you because of that....then she's not worth it anyway. Some women like that.
2006-12-04 01:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by marincaligirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry too much if it makes you feel uncomfortable - she will probably find out soon enough. It has never shocked me in the past when I have found out about a boyfriend, it's not something that needs to be addressed before things go any further or anything.
2006-12-04 01:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by Warm Breeze 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her. Its not going to bother her if she really likes you. However, if you don't tell her and she has never seen and uncircumcised one before she might be shocked. I know if it was me I would want to know.
2006-12-04 02:09:45 · answer #7 · answered by Katherine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol its not like its weird to not be circumcised just keep it clean u dont really have to tell her unless it gets brought up in conversation anyways
2006-12-04 01:54:19 · answer #8 · answered by johnstockton 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure the subject will 'come up' sometime. Maybe discuss it over dinner.
2006-12-04 01:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by tumbleweed1954 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please tell her because if she isn't a virgin and has never seen one that hasn't been circumcised...it could possibly (more than likely) startle her. Just be on the safe side and tell her.
2006-12-04 01:56:15 · answer #10 · answered by shellese2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend's not circumcised either. Are you calling him wierd?
2006-12-04 02:09:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋