i broke up with my ex last year. we stopped talking 4 a while. but lately we'v been talking again. i use to really love him in the past. i thought i did again or maybe i never stopped loving him. he was the best boyfriend iv ever had. respected me.and was the best kisser. when we talked again he kissed me and it reminded me of the good memories we had.
but i didnt mean to but i gave him hope that maybe we could get back together. even though i always tell him we r just friends. he doesnt get it. even though maybe i like him. but i dont want to go back. i broke up with him for stupid reasons but he would mess with my feelings too much. example would be "pretending to break up" and then the next day saying "just kidding". plus my family doesnt agree with us being together. not that it matters but yeah...
he says if i dated some other guy he wouldnt talk to me.wtf? all i want is to be friends. what should i do?
2006-12-03 17:49:24 · 11 answers · asked by weenie d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been in the same position as you and I'd just like to say. Treat and ex like an ex. Once you've crossed the line over friendship and been someones girlfriend/fiancee/wife, you could never be friends with that guy again. I know your heart really wants to be friends with him. But don't make that mistake. Because those feelings that you had for him are bound to come back while you guys are pretending you guys are friends. He will forever be jealous of any other guy you might have interest in and you will end up wasting alot of time and energy on him thinking he's your friend. But it won't be like that. This will stop you from having time to look for other guys that are out there. You've already been with this guy and you've realized he wasn't worth it. So don't go back in there. Take my advice, cut ties with him, don't talk to him, don't keep things that remind you of him. Even yet delete him off of your cellphone, your messengers. Drop him off your planet and just keep him in a far corner of your memories, as an ex that's where he belongs. Otherwise he'll just give you too much stress and side track you from living your life.
2006-12-03 18:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him & that only your heart will know, then don't let him go. For if you let go of someone you really love, you will face incredible loneliness & an emptiness for the rest of your life. You need to sit in a dark room & just think if he makes you feel special and if you can't stop yourself in calling him & reaching out to him if he doesn't call or you guys don't get to talk for some time, then he's the one for you. N if you indeed truly love him, then be brave enough to face everyone and everything. Cos others will come and go but he will be there by your side for the rest of your life & the only one who will probably love and care for you with a true heart and no wrong intents.
Best of luck dear!
2006-12-04 01:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends is what you want, but not what he wants...
And you can't have what you want if the other is not willing to play fair so give it up and get on with your life. There are too many good guys in this world for you to be wasting your time with this piece of crap. Avoid the places he frequents, tell him one final and for all NO, and don't talk to him again.
The mind games aren't worth the pain of betrayal you feel. Let him go and enjoy the fact that you are strong enough to walk away.
2006-12-04 01:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by amanda w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really sound confused. It sounds like you really have feelings for him but then again, you say you just want to be friends. It sounds like you have to do some serious thinking. Either you don't want to be bothered or you do. If you don't, then just stay away and make it clear by not communicating. If you feel he's getting the wrong message, then come right out and say what you feel. Hate to say this but men HAVE to be told right up front; alot of times they don't know how to take hints.
2006-12-04 01:56:41 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop thinking of him..... throw out all the sweet memories between u & him...
it's very complicated.. as u said, u broke & both of u talk again.. so, why u wanna break??? wat for/??? there is no game in tis LOVE.. u have to be seriuosly, no game... today u say i love u, tonite u wanna break up.. tomolo u wke up & u say i miss u....dont u think it's funny??? i dont like guys tat always thinkin love is juz a game or stuff.. today he want u, he takes it.. but if he is not, he drop u.... isnt it a puppy love??? just forget bout him if u r not feeling well.... try to think bout ur future...god bless..
2006-12-04 01:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by Rosia R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stay true to yourself. You just need to stick to it and tell him that you are sorry but you still think it's best to stay apart and just friends. He will be fine, everyone just needs a little time to heal and move on in life.
2006-12-04 01:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by Theresa P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he's a good match for you. I'd move on, don't even try to stay friends. You'll be happy when you meet someone new.
2006-12-04 01:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by jabbergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so date some other guys, maybe he gets the message
2006-12-04 02:29:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell truth.
2006-12-04 01:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
women are flakes, they cant stick with it. its not like the movies, women are the dogs
2006-12-04 01:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by Sad Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋