I've gone out with a guy who is 20 years old. I'm 32. We went out several months ago, and hit it off well and then decided that our age difference was too much. Since then, we've remained great friends, and we've even hooked up sexually a few times. So I guess we've been off and on even though we've remained friends. Sometimes he tells me that our difference in age doesn't matter, but the other day, he told me that when we first got together, he thought that we connected so well, and he liked me so much that he wanted to date me. But he said that our age difference scared him. Whenever we're together though, he says that he can't even tell a difference in ages, that we connect so well. I feel the same way. What do you people think about it? I mean, do you think we could actually have something that lasts a while, or do you think he'll outgrow me? Don't many people outgrow relationships anyway, regardless of age? Like, you can't pretend to hold onto anyone, right?
2006-12-03 17:14:32 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sometimes some people are younger at heart ,maybe he's one of them ,20 years age difference actually is too much but if you and him are getting along well ,i think it wouldn't make any problem as long as you both are interested in each other \ ,maybe it would in a long run though .
2006-12-03 17:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really age does not matter...but I do have to warn you...the guy is still 20. While you probably have had many experiences in life, his is just starting. I know relationships work out even with big age differences but only when the guy is already mature. Right now, I don't think he is already mature at 20. He'll still probably want to do more and want more out of life. In the end, you just might get hurt when you feel the need to settle down and he's still having the time of his life. Nothing wrong with this if you're not serious anyway, but...guard your heart.
2006-12-04 01:18:44 · answer #2 · answered by curiousitywillnotkillcat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not for nothing, 20 year old guys want to expierence an older woman, and you are that right now. Once he hits 30-40, if you are still together lol, he will be looking for a younger woman. Most guys are dogs. A 30 year old man isnt looking for a 42 year old woman, a 40 year old man isnt keeping a 52 year old woman......maybe some would, but the majority will be going for younger women...its what I see every day. You will be tossed out like Sundays paper lol. Persoanlly if I fall for someone, I dont worry about age.
2006-12-04 01:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by Thumper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was in your shoes i go by what i want ,i want a man older and bigger than me not one seeming like a little brother.Ill tell him we can't be girlfriend and boyfriend ,but we can be sister and brother were we look after each other ,that don't includes sex or kisses.I went through 1 of those before the guy was 1 or 2 in tall than me and a couple months older than me and wanted to be my boyfriend I told him he could be a brother I want a man that I can hold and that could svae my life if a big was going to hurt me I'm 4ft 10 1/2 now and was then at that time too .I been married and he was 6'2 .
2006-12-04 01:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by littlemoma_30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, i know how this feels i have a crush on a guy who is also 10 years older than me. when i foung how old he was it shocked me! and now that i had a chance to think about it it does not bother me as bad my biggest fear was that he would have a problum with it ! it seems like your boyfriend is worried that you might have a problum dating a 20 year old so that why he keeps changing his answer my advice to you is tell him how you feel about the age difference .then you will both be o the same page it seems like you care deeply for this guy i wish you the best of luck ! God Bless and have a Merry Christmas!
2006-12-04 01:23:46 · answer #5 · answered by Heather F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I am not going to say that age is a problem in my book but I am a little concerned about this. First off, that is 12 years and it is a proven fact that women mature faster than men. You are going to be the responsible one basically "raising him" so he can decide later that he needs to sow his oats elsewhere. This may be the exception to the rule but usually the men are older because that way they are on the same page as we are around the same time. Just be careful and guard your heart.
2006-12-04 01:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by lilphill1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ew when you were 20 he was 8. That fact alone should deter you from starting a relationship. However, you ARE both consenting adults.
But oh man if I was his mother I'd be pissed if my son who is barely out of high school was being approached by a woman who is 12 years older.
2006-12-04 01:26:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go for it. My friend is 35 and his boyfriend 24 and they have been going out for 2 years now. Now they are living together and they have a solid relationship. She was very nervous and undecisive at the begining too but she decided to give it a chance and it worked!! They are very happy now. I'd say give it a chance.
2006-12-04 01:20:48 · answer #8 · answered by aroundtheworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are playing with fire. When you are 40, which is not old, he will be 28, and 40 will scare him off. Find a very actibve 35-35 year old man, and make a mature relationship work.
2006-12-04 01:17:33 · answer #9 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it! I'd much rather have a younger man than an old man. Think about it, when you're old he'll still want to go do things and he'll keep you going. Just make sure he fills your every desire and he's not just filling your physical needs.
2006-12-04 01:23:42 · answer #10 · answered by alicebeaching 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋