i love him, but is he worth it?

Question

I love him?
i think im in love with a guy. but hes not good for me. isnt rich. wont be able to support me and future family.its not about the money, im worried that i might end up doing all the work , while he watches tv. hes an idiot. hes a liar and on top of it all a horney man who likes girls alot. and yet says he loves me. and only me.
not worth it?




not to mention hes older than me. by 11 years.


i just had a talk with him telling him that i dont want to take our relationship any further than friends. even though i have dreams at night about him.


but on the other hand he is a sweet guy. The only guy that i believe truly loves me. and maybe im letting it go? and maybe ill never find it again.

i went out with him before but i left him for stupid reasons other than my feelings towards him.
please help.

and if he sint worth it...how do i tell him that without hurting his feelings and making him not want to be friends?

Answer 1

Why the h-ll are you worried about his feelings? Get real. The fact he is a liar makes him not worth having, much less the fact that you find him to be an idiot. Wow, he is a horny older guy. What a RARE find! But, he only likes you. Well then, why just you? Because you LOOOOVE this idiot. Right? Is that what YOU deserve? Is that the level of a man you need? You have the upper hand. You have youth and he won't always find someone that much younger that will take a slobby idiot, who is not a worker, and has a sofa planted in his butt. If this is the man of your dreams, I would hate to experience the description of your nightmare. You say that you may never find this type of guy again. Well, honey, the streets are full of these idiots! Listen to that voice in your head you are trying to ignore. That is what that is for. A sweet guy works for you. He provides for you. He respects you and all women for that matter. Now go look for a guy worth having or stay single until you do. You will look back and be verrrrry glad that you left on your terms. Good Luck!!!

Answer 2

He's 11 years older than you, spends all his time watching TV, is a liar and an idiot and you're not sure if he's the one?

Maybe that's what I'm doing wrong. I'm too damn productive and nice.

I say tell him to get his act together or he needs to find someone else. I'm assuming you like him cause he's hot or has a great personality. Just imagine a time 30 years in the future when he has a beer belly and nose hair. What will do it for you then? You have to think about the future, always.

Answer 3

If he falls short of what you EXPECT out of a relationship then he's not worth it. Everyone has certain expectations that have to be met for a relationship to work.

If you decide to move on then just tell him you need time and space to make sure he's really what you want.. and if you decide you can't live without him then get back with him.. and if you get over him then you apparently did the right thing by leaving him.

Answer 4

11 years is alot but what you really need to be worried about is right now what's right for u now, not later. well good luck!