I'm 13 years old and I'm lost,I don't know where to go,I was bullied for 6 years at 2 different schools for having a certain hair colour(I bet you can guess!) and I am now home schooled,things seem to be looking up but theres something in the back of my mind thats saying"your not happy" I just need someone to talk to other than family and friends,I know this sounds a bit vague but i just needed to get it off my chest.Thankyou for reading this.
2006-12-03 17:08:25 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk here pet. You are anonymous and can share most things and get advice and support.
You will get a few idiots answering, but ignore them.
and by the way, Nicole Kidman, Charlie Dimmock, Sarah Ferguson, Geri Halliwell, Rita Heyworth, Catherine Hepburn, Cyndi Lauper!!!!!!...all beautiful red headed women! Quote that next time some retard starts on you!
2006-12-03 17:17:09 · answer #1 · answered by puffy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What color hair? Red? Blue? Green? Is it natural? I'm just kidding. I bet its red, naturally. My best friend has red hair and she was ALWAYS teased because of it. It didn't help that she has like a million freckles either. Okay..so being 13 is tough. Really really really tough. I'm 17 so I just barely made it out of that torture a few years ago. I was not happy as a 13 year old either. I was chubby. Lolz. So practically no one liked me. I had no one to turn to. My advice is to get a friend that you can relate with. Someone that you trust, that you can just tell everything to, without having to worry about upsetting them. I was never home schooled (because my parents wouldn't let me be.) but my other really good friend was. The only real advice I can give you is to just hang in there. Life is SOOOOOOOO much better on the other side. By the time you're 14..15, you'll look back on your 13 year old self and think "omg" because things will be so different. And about being teased because of your hair color, dont' worry about it. No matter what color it is, the secret about being teased is that the people picking on you are secretly jealous because YOU have something they DON'T. And that is what makes each of us so unique and wonderful. Hang in there.
2006-12-04 01:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kids are f***ing morons. Sorry to hear you were bullied. I spent those same years being called a n*gger and I'm not even black.
The thing to do is focus on your schooling and making friends in clubs where you can meet more intelligent people. You sound like bright kid.
You'll see in the years to come that all those kids that cause the pain now will be losers in life and you'll look back on it realising you were the better person.
Look to your own skills for your confidence. This is the time they call character building.
2006-12-04 02:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by charlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not...you're feeling what most 13 year old folks are feeling. They may not have been bullied...but, most are feeling that "lost feeling" you described. A good friend can be helpful...one where you can get it off your chest and he/she can do the same. Be assured...these feelings will last for awhile and will start to subside as you find more direction in your life. Don't give the "your not happy" mood too much attention. Acknowledge it creeps in from time to time, but it does for most of us. Keeping open to new experiences is important, like music, sports, dancing, art, reading, etc. OH...incidently, that hair color is going to pay off in the long run. Being abit different and unique can be a real gift. Hang in there.
2006-12-04 01:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by Serena M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know the emotional battering you have taken must be awful. You need help to re build your self esteem because inside you there is a really worthwhile person. If you are now 13 and the colour of your hair is a source of angst to you then why not dye....ir maybe not totally but lots of blonde streaks through it . I know a lad who did that and it looks really good. If you ever want to talk more....to me .....I am a mum and here on email. But best thing is to speak to people you know and seek the help to get you out of the dark place. Good luck....remember you are a special person and the bullys who made you feel low....HAVE BIG problems. All bullies have problems and hide behind being big shots to cover up.
2006-12-04 16:19:32 · answer #5 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like to pick on the weaker people to feel good about themselves. 99% of the time its because they are insecure about themselves so they take it out on others. That's why they are called bullies. Many of the bullies do not come from the best of homes and may be acting out what they see at home. Its still not right just don't take it personally. You will come out of this stronger than before and maybe one day you can help kids that are going through the same thing. Just feel bad for those bullies in a way because they are feeling like they need to pick on others to feel good about themselves!! Keep strong!! Happy holidays!!
2006-12-04 01:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm, red hair? If so, I too have red hair, if not, who cares! You are unique and special, there is no one in this big old world quite like you, be thankful for that and embrace it. I got bullied in high school for having purple hair, but because of my crazy hair, I was voted most artistic personality! Who knows, maybe there's a little artistic ability in you?! Find something you like and develop it, if you like working with color maybe you'll be an artist or master painter, if you like working with hair, maybe a hairstylist? All I'm saying is use that negative experience to propel you in a positive direction, don't live in the past, you have a beautiful future ahead of you!
2006-12-04 01:16:20 · answer #7 · answered by Teresa 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think whatever age you are you sometimes feel lost. I always feel better by talking to someone and sometimes I phone the samaritans just for an independant view when i feel really bad. The other thing i find good is writing a diary with all the thoughts and feelings I have to get them out. I tend to write it when I'm really down. Try and take some time out to think about what you are unhappy about and when you've figured it out think about the options you have to do something about it.
2006-12-04 15:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by roisindu2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately anyone that is slightly different looking has a tendancy to be bullied. Its in everythings nature, you only have to look at the animal kingdom to realise this. Your main response must be either to stand up to the bullies and show that you are better than they or hide yourself away and let them win. Its not easy, I know, as I was bullied and I wish now I had stood up for myself more. i now am 50 and still have no self confidence. You must believe in yourself.Good luck
2006-12-04 01:28:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 14 and I know what you mean...Sometimes it helps just to get everything you think may be wrong out. People you know will just remember it and you don't want to have to think about what you're saying or hold back. I'd suggest getting a journal, blog, or something else that you can lock (literally or with a password.) It really helps. :)
And hey, if you're looking for someone real to talk to, there are plenty of friendly people on Yahoo! :P Just don't reveal too much personal info.
2006-12-04 01:12:36 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋