2006-12-03 17:06:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
It reminds me a story of the famous Urdu writer Saadat Hussain Manto, I read many years ago. There was a girl, not attractive looking, was obsessed with the fact the young eve-teasers were not interested in her. While her friends were always happy to had drawn attention of the guys loitering around the community and teased any girl passing by. There were also writings on the walls about girls who were generally considered beautiful in the locality. Ignorance of the eve-teasers dragged the girl to a deep dejection. Then the unusual happened. One morning people were surprised to find writings on the walls about the girl all around the locality. She was not of the type to charm young guys even by her gesture. But someone wrote about her unnoticed in the darkness of night prompting people’s curiosity to know, who that could be ?
It was that girl herself, being unable to bear the ignorance any longer came out to write naughty comments on walls about her.
Not having the desire to be loved is abnormal. But your feeling is out of the desire to be loved, and it is absolutely normal I guess.
2006-12-03 21:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by DontCare 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not a normal, healthy way to feel.
In addition to some other good answers here, think about the word "deserve" and what it really means. I think if you think about it long enough you'll realize it is really a flimsy, ambiguous word you should use only in very specific circumstances. I won $20 in the lottery last week: Did I "deserve" that?? Who can quantify these things?
For a big, important thing like love, the word should not be used.
2006-12-04 01:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by bmi=22 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have you had an experience that left you feeling bad about yourself? Or, have you been rejected by someone who should have loved you (like a parent or other family member)?
Either way, this is not a good way for you to live, and it is something you can change. You should talk to a counselor or someone that you trust about it. You do deserve to be loved... everyone does.
2006-12-04 01:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Very normal, especially if your parents weren't great at giving unconditional love and praise.
We ALL get screwed up to some extent, but if you never felt truly loved, no matter what, as a small child, it can lead to the feeling you described.
2006-12-04 05:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by P-nuts and Hair-dos 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may feel the may you feel for a variety of reasons... Is it normal? Not exactly, but then again, who is to say what is normal.... Are you the only person with such thoughts and ideas? No! You are not alone.
Check out the following links... they may help provide hope for you during this time of misery...
http://www.coping.org/growth/beliefs.htm
http://www.coping.org/growth/affirm.htm
2006-12-04 01:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by J D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
huh? yes! that is normal! sometimes i also feel that way too. the important thing here is, whether you feel that you do not deserved to be loved or not, that you REALLY are loved by the people around you. just cheer up and feel good about yourself. i know this is not easy but this ain't also impossible
2006-12-04 01:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by seishinfuzen 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It has to do with forgiveness. Either you can't forgive yourself or society. Let me remind you, you have one life to live and to make the best of it. Life is short so get over it.You deserve love and so does everyone. Bum,dumb,mean whatever we all are gods children.
2006-12-04 01:11:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not normal. It's common, but not normal. I would look at your past and ask yourself why you feel that way, as it is usually the outcome of being in a physically/verbally/emotionally abusive relationship.
2006-12-04 01:10:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi, Why you think that way? every person (no mater how he /she looke like or act) has some very beautiful characterisics that may or may not be known by him/her, but usually perceived by smart people, every single one has some beautiful thing that others lack! this is a reality. So please don't think in this way, just trust that God had put some beautiful plans for every one in life, and be optimistic, and know that the external powers actually originate from internal powers!!
Hope this help, TC.
2006-12-04 01:14:36 · answer #9 · answered by Smart Warrior 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You deserved to be loved, but you need to learn to love and appreciate yourself. You will be a happier person and others will be drawn to you.
2006-12-04 01:10:15 · answer #10 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋