I am so in love with my boyfriend but and he treats me perfectly except for when he lies about the stupidest things! Things that don't matter..but he lies about little things so often that it frustrates me like no other. He knows how upset i get and I have broken up with him many times over it. We are so perfect except for that...does anyone have advice on what i should do?!?
2006-12-03 16:53:40 · 15 answers · asked by therapist 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He won't stop lying. If he's a liar by nature and he habitually lies, he's not going to stop no matter what you do. Find a guy who can tell the truth. If you can't even trust him to tell the truth about little things, you can't trust him at all. There can be no relationship without trust.
2006-12-03 16:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by Lanani 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he lies about small things, it's only a matter of time before he lies about bigger things. I would suggest getting away from him. Wouldn't you rather be with someone you can trust rather than being with someone you have to wonder if he's lying all the time?
2006-12-04 01:02:08 · answer #2 · answered by fungirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how do you know he's lying? Is he that lame that he get's caught? Or are you accusing him of things? Lying is very dangerous habit and even harder habit to break. If you feel you don't want to break up with him, then you have to handle his lying as something to be expected. In other words, you might have to reconditon yourself because of your boyfriend's nasty habit. If you know your boyfriend is a liar, then you know you can't put too much into what he says or does. Good Luck! Tip: You can't make anyone stop lying.
2006-12-04 01:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by Vivian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I feel your pain. I had the same problem. What I believe it boils down to is: Is he a good guy or not? My guy fortunately is. After nearly a year of arguing/near-breakups/distrusting him, he is now telling the truth and I am trusting him again. It takes so much time to rebuild what is lost. You will both need to be patient and 100% honest. Any tiny little screw up makes you start all over. It sucks.
You need to talk it out with him. Be as honest and open as you want him to be. Good luck.
2006-12-04 00:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by ca_kerri 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Drop him. If he lies now, he'll lie forever. So will the kids. Right now its about stupid things. Later it is about bigger things. He's hiding stuff from you, and that isn't good for any relationship.
Take your lumps now, rather than later.
There are plenty of folks out there who will treat you well. You deserve better. Don't settle for less.
2006-12-04 00:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by drslowpoke 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my bf always lied to me. it really hurt me. we broke up. a few months later i was able to clear everything out. we didnt get back together but he realized all hes done and the day i thought would never come came. he apologized. its now 1/2 yr later havent spoken to him since. but in the last two days i talked to him and he seems like hes changed. or at least hes very open.
good luck though. tell ur bf it really hurts u when he lies. u can either leave and not come back till hes changed or never or suggest he get help. he wont listen at first but its very useful.gl
2006-12-04 01:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can everything be perfect except for the lies. Dump him and find someone who isnt perfect, but wont lie.
2006-12-04 00:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by Aqueous Transmission 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he knows what the truth is? Does it matter if he is right? Does it matter if he is wrong? Is he people pleasing? Is he fantasying? Talk to him about these little things. They don't stay little for long.
2006-12-04 01:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by atantatlantis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but once a liar always a liar…trust is gone if you cant be honest with the one you love…When your in love, it is hard to accept the fact that you may need to move on.. just a suggestion
2006-12-04 01:00:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well,Lying on the first place is definitely a silly kind of disrespect to oneself...if it is done so many times already ,then there is no excuse for consideration as this manifests a systemic illness called dishonesty...if i were you,find time to confront him on this matter.if to no avail an agreement is not met,then shoo him away!..he does not deserve your trust.
2006-12-04 01:01:42 · answer #10 · answered by dante d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋