Can a Christian and a non believer be together?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now. He is athiest, and I am Christian. You know how in church, they say you should show your faith by your actions?? That's how I fell for him. He is not a bad person at all and I was shocked when I found out he wasn't religeous at all. I accept that we have different beliefs, but i'm concerned because the bible says that a Christian should not be with a non Christian (2 Corinthians 6:14). I love him with all my heart, but I don't know if I am upsetting God by staying with him.

Answer 1

It is a warning for you, not so much as upsetting G-d.

It is when a bull (6 feet tall, say) is hitched with a bull (5 feet tall)
The taller bull has its head turned aside as they plow in circles. After a while, its neck is messed up and it can never turn its head or see straight again. You are the taller bull. This is what this relationship will do to you over time.

Praying 4 your courage sister
David

Answer 2

When you decide to be partners in life, things can get rough over the years together. Being together and becoming "one" is made much more difficult if your spiritual beliefs are not the same.

And there is a spiritual side to being joined with another. It doesn't always show up early on. As you said, you were "shocked" to find where he stood.... how long did it take to learn that? So it is with the differences you have. They may not make much difference now, but later on they might very well cause your relationship to break up and that would be more painful than taking care of the differences now.

God had you in mind when He said not to be "yoked" with an unbeliever. it can be very painful and even devestating. I'm not trying to be negative, but I have counselled married couples with this problem over the years and seen the hurt it causes.

Answer 3

I've never seen it work out. The non-beliver will stay home, drink coffee, watch t.v. while the other runs around getting dressed up, harried, dressing the kids. Then the kids start asking why can't they stay home like the other parent and they don't even like sunday school. Finally the parent that stays home, will start harping about family togetherness and how they just go tto church to get away from that one parent, the fights escalte and pretty soon the only thing left is divorce or the believer falls away from their religion. The other person never gives in and never converts. The fights seem to start with the kids, so maybe if you don't have any together, it can work out.

Answer 4

Is he respectful of your belief? Would he try to change you? You can get into problems if you get into a relationship with somebody who ridicules your beliefs or tries to change you. Be sure he shares your values on general ethical type issues. An atheist can have good values, just be sure he does before getting too serous.

And don’t ever believe you can change any man. What you date is what you get, except that his annoying habits just get more annoying over the years.

Answer 5

You are not upsetting God by staying with him. But you may wish to seriously think about whether he is someone who can encourage and support you in your faith, so that you can grow to love your Jesus more and more each day. He may not be the one for you, but then, maybe he is.

Answer 6

"Do not be bound together with unbelievers,
for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness?
Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
Or what harmony has Christ with Belial?
Or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?
Or what agreement has the temple of God with idols?
For we are the temple of the living God (II Corinthian 6:14-16)
You can break it off now, and it will hurt;
or you can go through years of pain and heartbreak and find out the hard way what it means to choose you own way and ignore the Word of God.
"And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not act on them, will be like a foolish man, who built his house upon sand. And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and burst against that house, and it fell, and great was its fall" (Matthew 7:26,27)

"For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake, he is the one who will save it" (Luke 9:24)
I know this sounds hard, but no one who chooses to follow Christ will ever regret it in the long run. He can help you, and He will comfort you, if you choose Him.

Answer 7

To answer your question I'm going to ask you to answer one. If you stay with this man would you want your kids to grow up not knowing the kind of upbringing you have known (I'm assuming you had a christian up bringing)? If you are ok with your kids growing up with that influence then you should take a look at your relationship with god. Don't assume that you will be able to change his mind. I rarely works out that way. It is the reason for the warning in the first place.

Answer 8

If you read this scripture it should help you with your understanding..... It is in the study bible version which breaks things down better for you.



1 Cor 7:13-17
13And if a Christian woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he is willing to continue living with her, she must not leave him.
14For the Christian wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the Christian husband brings holiness to his marriage. Otherwise, your children would not have a godly influence, but now they are set apart for him.
15(But if the husband or wife who isn't a Christian insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases the Christian husband or wife is not required to stay with them, for God wants his children to live in peace.)
16You wives must remember that your husbands might be converted because of you. And you husbands must remember that your wives might be converted because of you.
17You must accept whatever situation the Lord has put you in, and continue on as you were when God first called you. This is my rule for all the churches.
(NLT)

Answer 9

One of the effects of true love is it allows the heart to grow, to change. Find the source of his pain or ignorance that prevents him from naturally turning to God. If you have a Christian heart, you are going to need one like yours.

Answer 10

The reason non-believers are not supposed to be with believers is because you might see the world through his eyes and convert to atheism.
Why don’t you sit down and really discuss your beliefs and let him tell you his. Eventually if he gets his ideas across correctly you should see the truth.
Oh and do not get offensive or aggressive with your speech, use you brain and discuss and really listen to what he has to say even if it conflicts with your beliefs. And tell him to do the same. Do this several times and if eventually you don’t reach an agreement let it go it’s not worth losing the love of your life over.