I'm from Toronto, Canada and I have a boyfriend here, but I met this guy when I was Princeton University in New Jersey last year. I came back to Toronto about 6 months ago, and the guy I met in Princeton comes up to visit me about once a month, sometimes more, but we talk on the phone every day and we email each other and everything, and I really like him and we are thinking of getting married.
But my boyfriend here in Toronto has no clue about any of this. If my other boyfriend from NJ proposes to me, that would mean I could move to New Jersey with him since he lives there and he's an American citizen. I really love him so much, but I don't know what to do about my current boyfriend? I was thinking that I may get married, go through the immigration process, and just leave and cut of connection with him completely?
I know it sounds awful but I don't know what else to do. I just don't feel like I love him anymore because I love the man I met in NJ. Please tell me what to do!
2006-12-03 16:46:31 · 10 answers · asked by BOOB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But I've been with the guy in Toronto for over 3 years. I can't just break up with him like that. He would be suspicious and get mad.
2006-12-03 16:51:39 · update #1
First.......I would get a full background check on both. They might tell you they don't have a criminal background, but do you believe them. (Go to Intellius.com. $49.95 for a criminal check). Second, you should connect with someone that others know about also. You need to find someone that you can trust and that others you know can trust also. I think the worst thing you can do is get married to someone you that is more of a stranger.
Best wishes.
2006-12-03 16:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by rasckal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get married with the guy you love if your really think hes right for you and are ready for a marriage . Do what you said about just geting married and moving to New Jersey and never talking to the guy in Toronto...hell get the message becaus e theres always a chance(and im not exagerating) that the guy in Toronto will like might hurt you physically when he finds out or something. Hapeens to many people. You dont want to get stuck with someone you dont love your entire life do you?
2006-12-03 16:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ hey! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. You see him once a month, and you think you love him. Of course you don't love the one you see all the time -- he's yesterday's news. Much more romantic to see someone once a month, and not find out all their flaws so soon. Then when you move to NJ and eventually become bored with seeing him every day, you can take a lover from California (once a month), and fall even more deeply in love with him.
2006-12-03 16:59:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not just cut ties with bf in canada. if you don't want to be with him just tell him. people want closure with these type of things. i'm happy that you found someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with,but you might want to put yourself in your canadian bf shoes first. how would you like it if he did that to you? no letter, no phone call, no face to face heart to heart conversation? the worst of all, no closure. just be up front with him. if you keep worrying about hurting peoples feelings, you'll lose your own chance for happiness.
p.s. you should have told you bf in canada a long time ago!
good luck with it all!
2006-12-03 16:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by menolikey811 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply break up witht he guy from toronto! = ) hehehe . american boys r pretty sweet. haha. just tell him you rather be friends and u might hve met some1. or dont .i dno. goooood luck = ) i wish u the best
2006-12-03 16:50:24 · answer #5 · answered by hockeyGG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-03 16:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for the one in NJ.
2006-12-03 16:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anwar h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... go for the 1 you think that you love more..
2006-12-03 16:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by Dont get Infected 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FLIP A COIN AND GO WITH THE ONE THAT WINS.
2006-12-03 17:25:55 · answer #9 · answered by miladybc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All stupid people should shoot themselves.
2006-12-03 16:48:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋