everytime im apart from my bf i start wondering what is he doing , who is he around. even when i keep myself busy this thought still comes to play. how can i get over this problem of mine cause its making me unhappy inside. plz no smart remarks this is serious. ty
2006-12-03 16:36:52 · 17 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when your not together have you tried calling him to see where is or who's he with. If you live with him tell him that you would like to go with him when he gets ready to leave.if you dont live with him tell him to come pick you up so that you can hang out and do whatever it is that hes planning on doing.if he dont want you to go with him in either case then you know his plans are with another lady/girl. start getting out yourself and enjoying make him sit and wonder where you are thats how I would play that hope you start to enjoy yourself and stop worring making yourself unhappy over this guy.
2006-12-04 05:13:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is focus that energy on yourself and not let your own insecurities run your life. They will eventually become a problem in the relationship. The bottom line is that the more self confident you become, the more attractive you will seem to your boyfirend. Guys like gals who aren't worried and weirded out all the time. Trust him to the level that he deserves to be trusted. Don't be blind or dumb, but if he hasn't done anything to cause you this concern, then give him the benefit of the doubt. If he has given you reason to worry, then why are you still with him?? Be true to yourself!
2006-12-03 16:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by dreamer1414 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start to develop a life of your own that is unaffected by your boyfriend.
Worrying may be natural, but it is unpleasant.
Worrying is truly God's way of telling you that a situation is out of your hands.
Anxiety over love is a sure sign that something isn't right for you anyway.
Don't feel bad though.
You are not alone.
2006-12-03 16:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by negrito con sabor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to stop wondering about how your love interest is doing, or what they are doing. You can only rely on trust. And if its real there should be some comfort in that. If all things are equal and you aren't doing things that could have a negative impact on your relationship, then you should trust its the same on your partner's end. But wondering is natural. It comes from concern.
2006-12-03 16:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by hulkgammarays 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already started changing by recognizing this is a problem. You just have to keep doing what you are doing;;;;; get your mind off obsessing about what he is doing, etc....it plain isn't healthy for you. You'll drive yourself crazy, and end up not enjoying the time you DO get with him. If he has done things that give you reason not to trust him, and this is why you constantly wonder what he is up to, you are wasting your time.
You won't change him.
Jealousy makes everyone miserable, and you deserve better.
good luck and smile, be happy, and enjoy the time you have here,,,life ain't no dress rehersal.
2006-12-03 16:45:26 · answer #5 · answered by Lola 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been like this with other boyfriends? You might need to take a break from boyfriends, and find out what activities and subjects interest you. What do you enjoy doing other than being with your boyfriend? Find out.
If you are only like this with this boyfriend and not with others in the past, then maybe he's done something to make you suspicious. If you can't trust him, dump him. Trust your gut instinct and intuition.
2006-12-03 16:43:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's some advice from a guy... don't worry. Guys do want alone time, they don't want to be bossed around or by checked up on. So give him his space. I understand that you are concerned about him but if you are that unable to trust him... then maybe you shouldn't be together.
But, you can just take him as he is or dump him.
2006-12-03 16:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off is this your first BF?Because if thats the case then, this whole BF thing is new to you.And sure your going to wonder what his up to and what his doing with out you.If he isnt your first and you have never felt this way before,maybe you need to ask your self while you feel this way.Is he the cheating kind, the kind you dont trust?And if thats the case should you be with him?
Well i just hope all goes well.....
2006-12-03 16:48:21 · answer #8 · answered by Porcelain Doll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better find an alternate bf , incase of urgency. so that u dont have to worry abt him anymore when he is not around.
2006-12-03 16:50:25 · answer #9 · answered by luckmansg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him. Obviously you don't trust him. If he hasn't given you reason to wonder, then maybe you have insecurity and/or trust issues.
2006-12-03 16:39:26 · answer #10 · answered by Aqueous Transmission 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋