women : do you hate it when men do this?

Question

when they start confessing that they like you through text messaging or calling you,
i terribly hate men courting me through texting, I dont want it, it feels insincere and really a coward thing to do,
and i also hate it when they havent seen me or dont really know me yet, they start telling me all of those i love you statements and that i feel that you are the one for me,
it really feels weird to hear men tell me that they think im the one for them , when they have no idea who i am, and what i do , what is my agenda in life
i wish they would stop doing this, because i dont beleive in it.
I hate it when me court me like that, I wish they would stop, its shallow.

Answer 1

Depends on the man. Sometimes a little mystery can be sexy, but each to their own and I do agree that idiots proclaiming undying love at the drop of a hat is a big turn-off

Answer 2

First of all have you ever thought there just telling you what they think women like to hear. Of coursse there not going to text you saying what are you doing sitting on your fat *** sweetie wanna talk. They just throw the words out in fun. Doens't mean they are gonna marry you. lighten up a bit. Now its different if your dating a man and he always does this yet can't to your face.

and if that should ever happen keep in mind maybe he's shy and can't tell you yet in person and so his way is through writing or a text in time he'll get more comfortable in front of you and he can say it. but theres two kinds of things you just talked about so i wanted to point out both scenerios for you.

One can just be on chat never met yet they say i love you or hay baby . or your the one for me take it with a grain of salt there playing play back..

and ifs a guy you really care about then in time he will tell you he's probably jjust shy at first.

Answer 3

I hope a lot of guys read this question because it's true. When most men do the typical excessive courting stuff, it really does repel you away.

Just remember though, it's not really their fault. They've been conditioned for this. The great guys, they'll learn from their mistakes and take the time to figure it out what REALLY attracts women.

Good luck to you, finding a guy who has inner game together is a rare breed.

Answer 4

I completely agree! The text messaging thing is annoying and the "I love you" thing is just creepy. When guys say "I love you" before they even know you, they are just trying to tell you what they think you want to hear. I've gotten to the point where I just say "You don't know me and you're freaking me out. You're not getting in my pants, so give up." It's kind of crass, I guess, but I'm so tired of dealing with that.
To the guys: come chat and then invite me to go out somewhere with you instead. Don't say hat you don't feel because it will just make you look weird and creepy and desperate and that will bite you in the *** eventually.

Answer 5

I know how you feel. How can they think they like you already when they really don't even know you at all. I wish I had an answer for you. What I want to know is how to discourage them without hurting there feelings.

Answer 6

yes i hate it very much 2 and your right it is totally the cowardly way out like they are scared of rejection

Answer 7

Yes. I also hate when they tell me that they like my style. When they don't even know me to know my style.

Answer 8

i dont like it either, kinda creepy sometimes. they make themselves look like desperate men.

Answer 9

maybe they are intimidated by you