I work in customer service within a professional environment. This means that it's my JOB to be NICE to people, regardless of whether I actually like them or not. However, sometimes men perceive this as an invitation to hit on me. I don't have a boyfriend and am not interested in meeting men at work, so how do I tell them in a courteous manner that I don't appreciate their attempts??? I am shocked at the number of old men who do this!!!!!
2006-12-03 16:21:17 · 18 answers · asked by Jennifer M 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
This happens to me all the time too! I simply explain that they will end up in the Tower if they don't leave me alone.
2006-12-03 18:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by *Happy Once Again!* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem all the time; I think most men just perceive casual courtesy as romantic affection.
I've never really gotten a chance to use this, but I hear that the only thing that definitely won't offend a man who's hitting on you is to tell him you already have a boyfriend. So I guess you could lie about that, or else wear a fake wedding ring or something.
I did once successfully get rid of a guy without any further creepiness from him by telling him, truthfully, that I do not date.
2006-12-04 00:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by KdS 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I just read an article that stated that men have a more difficult time discerning when a woman is just being friendly or is really interested in them. Very interesting... I'd say just tell them you're not interested or that you have a boyfriend.
2006-12-04 21:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa Bee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This old perv grabbed my arm one time when I was helping him out at a very popular clothing retail-where I work, and I brushed it off and just moved away from him-creep. I didn't want to make a scene , but I just felt that it was harassment. I know I should of this/that blah blah-but I just didn't want it ti escalate. If I were you, I'd make it some type of a point,- hint that your not interested and that if they act so disgusted that you'll bring your supervisor into this, that what they exist!
2006-12-04 00:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any time you do something politely toward a man, even if it is rejection, he will still think there is a chance. You have to be blunt (not rude). Men only understand straight talk and misinterpret women when they try to drop 'nice' little hints.
2006-12-04 00:27:14 · answer #5 · answered by hockey 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When they hit on you, say "I'm sorry, but this is a place of business. I'm sure you understand."
If they persist, say "This is not an appropriate topic of conversation" and walk away (or pick up the phone, turn toward your computer screen, etc.)
2006-12-04 00:45:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just say "Sorry, I can't," or "Thank you, but I have a boyfriend," even if you don't. If they say something stupid like "so, you're not married are you?" then just smile and say "I need to get back to work now."
2006-12-04 01:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by Heidi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that you have a boyfriend. They don't need to know that you really don't. It should get them to back off.
2006-12-04 00:25:54 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look them straight in the eye and tell them, "Sir, I am simply being polite to you, and would appreciate the same in return."
If that don't work, tell them that you can't wait to tell your boyfriend how nice he was to you!
2006-12-04 00:33:03 · answer #9 · answered by debi_0712 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No Excuses Please !
Just be polite and say the Truth!
It is better to speak the SOUR TRUTH Rather then SWEET LIE!
This way you can even keep the friendship!
2006-12-04 00:30:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anurag Bhatia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋