It seems to me like after two or so years in couples I've seen they sort of seem to lose caring about eachother, like if the other died they'd be sad but 'OK' and move on and such. Is this wrong...or...
2006-12-03 16:19:02 · 21 answers · asked by fslcaptain737 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've know many many couples together for years and years. My inlaws were with ONLY each other their entire lives!! I think marriage is what you make of it...it takes hard work, determination, commitment and true devotion and love. I'm not sure all those things are very easily found nowadays....sad, really....
2006-12-03 16:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, not through my experience. I have found marriage to be a most fulfilling experience. It is first of all, a totally giving union. Try to find a person that really treasures you. Always maintain a straightforward honesty with this person. Talk calmly and apply logic without going overboard on emotions. I am with a person who still makes me run to the door when he drives up. He calls me and is always happy and supportive to me throughout the day. He is my soul mate. When I look into his face, whether I am at home or away from home such as times when I have been in the hospital, I feel I am home. Our young love never died, it only became stronger. We honor each other and when I see him, he has not aged at all....even 34 years later.
2006-12-03 16:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not use the term "die out" tho it does change. The new unknown parts of love of course are found out, but the trick to lasting love, I believe, are the things you do for each other just to make them smile. I don't mean to sound corny but its true. I have been happily married for 16 yrs and I truly believe its because we are simply nice to each other. It has happened more than once that my husband has gone to work only to find red hearts cut out of paper in his shirt pocket! The list of things you can do for each other are endless depending on your interest. The biggest killer of love, I believe, is criticism. Do people really have to call each other names? Before things come flying out of mouths, remember in a few months or so the reason your upset will probably be forgotten but if you are called a fat *** or worst that will last forever and even tho you are now making love or things seem OK, part of your heart is just gone. Love is like a scale, you must keep the kindness side tipping your way. Once the bad starts outweighing the good kiss your marriage goodbye. Also please do not treat each other like children. You are not each others parent and even tho you might not be happy about something you have to respect the other person. Everyone will make wrong choices, stand by your mate when they are down, and all will be right in the future!!!!!
2006-12-03 17:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by davidswoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think love dies out. I might be that people have been getting married for the wrong reasons, or love wasn't really there in the first place.
Maturity is a big factor. Now a days people just get it on and then they think they are in love. They mistake lust for love.
Sometimes couples do get tired of each other, but a little of "alone time" usually fixes things. Thats if love was there in the first place.
C ya
2006-12-03 16:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by Joe Speedy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if it is true love. People want hearts and flowers....fast beating hearts and passionate kisses for all time...but love matures as you grow together. The beauty is in the every day...the smile you have seen a million times but still think is beautiful...it's waking next to someone every day...it's smelling them on your sheets..and knowing the way they like their coffee. You marry someone you know you will love even as they start to age....someone you know you can go through the worst the life can throw at you and still want to be by your side. That kind of love never dies.(by the way...I will be 29 on dec 7th..I have been with the same man since I was 17 years old..on the 14th we will have been married ten years)
2006-12-03 16:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by silentscreamer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the thing is that people confuse 'love' with 'lust.' And lust most likely will die out. The thing people need to focus on is building a friendship and getting to know the person before getting married, because the friendship, or companionship, part is what will get you through the long haul. I'm 24 and I've been married for 5 years - an oddity for someone my age. It's not been without it's rough patches for sure, but I'm proud of both of us for sticking it out. I think it's sad that so many marriages fail today.
2006-12-03 16:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is wrong, but it is so true. i think that after you have been together for a while you think that person will be with you forever. But you know just because you have been married for awhile doesn't mean that you still don't like to be told that the other person loves you, to get flowers for no reason, but most of all to feel Like he or she will always be there for you no matter what life may throw your way. When you love someone let them know this everyday , because someday they won't be with you then it will be too late.
2006-12-03 16:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by karen v 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because a relationship takes work, and when you get used to each other, and expect to have each other around no matter what, you stop doing the necessary steps to take care of each other. In other words, you take the other for granted. I think it's very possible to continue in a loving relationship for years, but you do have to realize that romance is always necessary.
2006-12-03 16:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by solaralley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can if both parties don't put enough effort into it. Love has to be nurtured and cultivated like everything else. Just like plants in a garden will wilt and die without water, love will do the same without caring and work. You get in what you put in.
2006-12-03 18:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by Radio Diva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah i dont think so ;well yeah ' some do but the thing is.. when you get married you dont do it because at that time your soo inlove and feel you want to spend the rest of your life with them, then actually do it and let everything die because you no you got that person...
you both have to be inlove and look in the same direction in life and create that love that tends to keep you together
i dont no if you get me but yeah
2006-12-03 16:27:13 · answer #10 · answered by TiGa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋