ok I have been dateing my boyfriend for 2 and a half years now, but I think that there is something mentally wrong with him. He is always depressed about his life and talks of suicide from time to time. He is what I find out now to be a compulsive liar, and a sex addict. He tends to say things he don't mean all the time and change moods quickly, he is also very influenced by his friends as if he has no mind of his own. He even told me a coupe of times that he is going to flip out and either hurt himself or someone close to him one day, because he so stress (over nothing). He even told me like 3 times that he wanted me dead, that revenge on his behalf for something that happen long ago between which is not even that serious would be death to me, he said the only way he can get even is if I die, if he kills me? What is wrong with him?
2006-12-03 16:16:45 · 17 answers · asked by bandmember18 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Your boyfriend sounds exactly as I did years ago. I have bipolar disorder. He sounds like he is exhibiting the same signs as I was. I was violent, suicidal, and went through massive depression. He should probably go and see a psychiatrist as soon as possible before he acts one of his "fantasies" out.
2006-12-03 16:32:30 · answer #1 · answered by envizion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing a lot! You oughta be asking yourself why you're with him. You aren't a doctor, you can't fix him. As a woman, it's your natural instinct to nurture (take care of, make better).
As to what might be wrong with him. Chances are, his home life wasn't that great. His dad or maybe an older brother spent the first several and critical years of his life dominating, degrading and or physically abusing him, making him feel less than worthy as a human being. As an adult, he probably uses some kind, if not multiple types of narcotics, thus altering what is already a damaged self esteem. He looks to his friends to tell him what to do just so he can feel accepted by his peers, knowing that if he does something that is unacceptable to his friends, it was because they said to do it. That alone is especially hazardous to his well being. It could very easily turn to violence and crime.
2.5 years is a long time to be with some one and then have to leave them for what ever the reason. But do you really want to live the rest of your life in fear of the man that your involved with?
If you do decide to let go, make sure you notify the police of your situation. They'll at least have a heads up on keeping you safe.
Good luck.
2006-12-04 00:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by woody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with HIM? I don't mean this bad, but you need help because something is wrong that you stay with someone that treats you so bad and has a death wish for you! Get out! If he might hurt you in the case that he knows you are leaving, get ahold of a Women's Center and get assistance to get out where you will stay safe. No one deserves to be treated like that. You can't change him but you can change yourself. You are not the only one that has stayed with someone hoping that maybe they would change. I wouldn't be surprised if you told me that when you get to the point of leaving he gets nice. Then when you start feeling things are getting better, BAM back to the same ol' same ol'.
If you get help you can find out what is attractive about people that hurt you or if this is the first time to be in a relationship like this, you can get support from others that have been in your shoes. Get help before he hurts you. Here's the number of an organization with a toll free number that can help you find a Women's Center in your area:
http://www.rainn.org/
2006-12-04 00:32:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compulsive liar, sex addict, threatening...he sounds like a psychopath. There is no cure, you can only protect yourself. These people don't experience feelings as the rest of us do, so everything they say and do is play acting with the sole purpose of controlling the behavior of others. They may appear hateful but in reality, they don't even have the emotional capacity to hate. What they do have is concern only for themselves and complete disdain for others. This makes them extremely dangerous. This is presumed to be the real reason for the Clumbine school shootibg,
2006-12-04 03:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is very mentally unstable-may even be bipolar with some sort of psychoses. Bipolar is a imbalance of the brain where up and then down but you say he is mainly depressed which can also be from a chemical imbalance. But doesn't matter what his condition is he is not safe to be around. He sounds very unstable ,unpredictable and may as he says flip out one dau. the danger is that its unpredictable when and what will cause it. May be something simple. and catch you totally unaware all of a sudden being in a very dangerous,disturbing situation. The first time he told you that he wanted you dead-does not matter over what or that You consider minor matter-HE DOES NOT. II'd walk away from him very carefully-also talk to someone like your parents and esp your school counselor for am afraid of you getting hurt . He is definitely NOT Boyfriend material and you need to separate yourself from him and hope he will not get violent. If you go to church take him and have your minister or priest(whichever church you go to) talk to him for your boyfriend needs help. Someone his age should not always be depressed get him to seek therapy-suggest it to him if he agrees the go with him and be supportive but if he gets mad at you for suggesting,claiming nothing wrong with him then you need to leave before something bad happens.Tell your parents-get some support for yourself for you need to be strong and look out for your well being nowWhatever it is that is not right with him needs to be handled by a professional skilled in mental illnesses
2006-12-04 00:34:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way of knowing what is behind his various abnormal behaviors and violent threats. The real question is why you would care enough about a person with these problems to even continue to hang around him. There isn't anything you are going to do to fix any of it, and continuing to do so puts yourself at risk. Maybe he is just full of hot air, and they are empty threats- then again maybe he isn't and they aren't. It's not worth being with anyone with this type personality, there isn't any sort of meaningful relationship possible. I don't suggest worrying about what's wrong with him as much as I suggest you put distance between the two of you and find somebody a lot more normal. It's not your job to fix him, he may not even want to be fixed. But if you continue to hang around, chances are really good he may just fix you good.
2006-12-04 00:27:08 · answer #6 · answered by The mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drugs, either he is taking ones he shouldn't, or isn't taking ones that he should. If he is serious and not just messing with your head, he's a ticking time bomb, get away from him or get him professional help. Usually people (somewhat sane) are saying things like that because they want attention or sympathy, they need to grow up and get a life. But rather than face reality they talk of committing suicide, don't risk your life to save his if he's going to try taking you with him.
2006-12-04 00:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot wrong with him. He needs deep intensive psychotherapy.
Furthermore, the comments about suicide and death towards you is a serious form of emotional abuse.
You need to get away from him for your own good. If you love him, then you need to give him an ultimatum. Get help NOW!
2006-12-04 00:26:50 · answer #8 · answered by krazykritik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question should be "What is wrong with me?"
Wake up! Leave the relationship- either way you lose!What's good about this partnership ?either he is on drugs or you are!It is all a nightmare! Pack up and go while you still can.
2006-12-04 00:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by wolfass 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness! You're sweet for being concerned, but...sounds like you need to go boyfriend shopping. Is he in any sort of counseling? Sounds like he could benefit from a little guidance. He's not doing drugs, is he?
2006-12-04 00:26:10 · answer #10 · answered by Lilith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋