my ex wants me back, only prob is she has a kid now, i dunno why i broke up with her in the first place she was the nicest girl i've ever dated. but after we broke up she started dating this guy i know from the town over who is a ******* petafile, he only dates girls that are like 10 years younger than him, now shes got a kid and wants out of the relationship. shes been telling me how she always loved me and yata yata, but i dunno if i can deal with the fact that, that freak stuck his dick in her LOL. like i feel if im gunna be with her again, i want her to be like pureified by getting baptized or sumthing LOL. i dunno i do really like her and dont mind the kid thing really, i'd be a father to him. so i dunno ur opinions please!
2006-12-03 15:58:44 · 38 answers · asked by AXL ROSE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
keep him as a ex
2006-12-03 16:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you can't stand the thought of her having been with another man, then do not go back to her, cause most likely whenever you and her have a disagreement, that is something you will throw in her face, possibly. Sounds like this is always going to be in the back of your mind. As for her, she wants out of the relationship, which means she has not cut the ties as of yet, ..........is she rebounding. She needs to first clean up her mess, by getting out of the relationship and not using you to get her out. Once she is out of the relationship, you two need time to talk, and take things slow, if that's where you are wanting to head. You will not be able to pick up where you left off, too many things have changed. Get to re know each other without a relationship, just as friends first, see where that takes you.
2006-12-03 16:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm one of those people that if a girl gets a chance, that's the only one she gets. You are in a tight spot there, dude. Here are some options....
1. Take her back and adopt the child and leave the past arguments behind. Get a nice job and support both of them like a good person.
2. Don't get back with her, which in turn will make her a statistic in the single mothers section struggling to get food and feed her little boy.
3. Become a hermit.
2006-12-03 16:07:30 · answer #3 · answered by Cold Fart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, ask yourself these questions.
1. Why did you break up with her in the first place?
2. How old are you and she?
3. Do you think she really is in love with you? Or is she wanting you back just to help raise the boy?
4. Would you be willing to love and truly support the boy? It's not his fault who his daddy is.
5. Do you have a job to be able to financially support them both?
6. Are you in love with her?
You sound like a really caring person.
Whatever you decide.....think of it as a life time committment. Sounds like this little boy may have been through a lot already. I bet he needs a stable invironment.
Whatever you do.....good luck!!
2006-12-03 16:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by TexasRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iv'e been taking care of 2 boys whom arent mine for the last ten years. you have a 50/50 shot at getting it right. the one problem with it is that when you get upset and you yell at the kid, she will always say, don't yell at MY kid. and if you dont discipline the kid she will ***** at you for not helping her. do yourself a favor and just be friends with her and get you some tail every once in a while from her. she'll be pissed at you for not committing to her but you'll still have her around. if the girl in question is over 18, the guy is not a freak. i am 34. if a 24 year old chick was giving up *** to me your damn skippy i'd be all over it. you would too, freak. good luck, kid.
2006-12-03 16:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by heyman016032003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say i commend you on wanting to be with someone who has a kid a lot of guys don't do that and to even say you don't mind doing the kid thing and being sort of his father.i think you should go with your heart with this .. the only thing i didn't hear you say is that you still love her... but to me it seems like you still do.. to say that you will do the father thing with a child that's not yours that shows that you still love her . how can you really get mad because she is messing with this weird guy if you brOKe up with her.. she probably didn't know how he really was at first .. but obviously now she does that's why she wants you back i bet she got with this guy because she was hurt by you breaking up with her and she needed someone their for her at that time.If you both have been with other people before you guys where with each other than it should be Ok .. just think of this guy like any other person she might of been with if you love her those thoughts will pass just ask God to take those thoughts away but if you really can't deal with it then don't get back with her to hurt her again
2006-12-03 16:15:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you two actually have any emotional ties between you or did you just have a sexual relation ship? If There are actually feelings of love shared between the two of you, then yes by all means try to see if you can work it out! If it was a relationship of convenience with no loving commitment between you the best thing you can do is keep on walkin!!
2006-12-03 16:07:13 · answer #7 · answered by Carolyn T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does not sound as if You really want to be with her. You can not get beyond the child. If you still care for her; just be a friend and tell her so.
Have you seen and been with others after she left?
If she loved you so much; how was she able to have a child with another man?
she may just be running back to what she knows since things are not so great for her now. Never know.
Follow your instincts
2006-12-03 16:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by vennie s 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you like her and you don't mind that she has a kid, what's it going to hurt to at least give it a try. You can make it clear from the start that you want to take things slow and then just see how things go. You only live once. Why pass up any opportunity?
2006-12-03 16:02:19 · answer #9 · answered by noelikesrocks 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be smart and run as far and as quickly as possible.
You got rid of her for a reason; and her having a kid is only going to complicate things even more.
And no offense, but you don't sound quite ready to play stepdad, especially if the thought of her opening up for this other guy bugs you. (Maybe you should have held on to her).
2006-12-03 16:08:17 · answer #10 · answered by negrito con sabor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the common mistake everyone makes .Once it is over its over.Dont ever go backwards in life.She has failed for the second time and is having regrets.And if you get back with her things will look good for a short time till both of you start to go back to the same old problems and fighting...If you want to play it safe go for a long term dating with her ,dont have her move in.Or you will be sorry.
2006-12-03 16:04:47 · answer #11 · answered by DR.Frankie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋