Ok, I keep thinking about my ex-girlfriend. And its been 2 years now since we broke up. We both have had other relationships after well we each have had one. We both new the other person in those relationships, she new mine talked to her all the time when she was around, and hers, I new him from on the bus in highschool. Now I am 22 and she is 20, and I email her all the time, and she will respond, but the thing is, I have relized I screwed up. I have known her for 8 years, she still comes to my place, talks with my fokes, and is friends with my sis. Since we have broken up like I said, I have realized the stupid **** I did to hurt her, I have grown up, matured, and am trying to start slow again, but it seems she doesnt want anything to do with me anymore. So what I am wonderin is, why does she respond to my emails, oh and she said I can call her to say whatever it is I have on my chest to her. So I did and she wasnt there, and she called me back. Now in that convo, we started off good, she had a laugh when she new it was me on the phone ( she was smiling you can tell) but by the time the convo was over, she told me she is sick of the emails and me calling her, she said we always argue, yet I kept a calm attitude because that is why we broke up, I would always get mad over small things. That is what I have realized, and the thing is I am quiting smokin (3 Days now) longest I have ever gone, but anyways, I still kept it, and have on all emails. I am learning a song and learning to play guitar to sing a song to her for christmas cuz I know she doesnt like materialistic things. I care for this girl alot, I have tried to get over her cuz thats what she wanted, but the gf I had this summer broke it off with me when she went to college, well cheated on me, hey I was in college at one point to so I saw it coming, and then a month later her bf that I now broke it off with her. Now we both have lived near eachother for 8 years, and she moved out west, and I got a job out west as well and now live 20 min away. So thats my story, so I am wondering what to do, I have realized the hurt that I put her through, I was her first bf, and first kiss. So thats why I am wondering what to do, I have had 5 relationships in my past, but hers was the longest 3 years roughly. And I know I have changed my atittude towards her. I just dont know why she leads me on, I do want her back and I do want her to trust me, I am taking it slow. But again every relationship is different, but the girl who posted her hurt and anger, I have the samething. Just wondering what to do? Thanks
2006-12-03 15:33:50 · 9 answers · asked by linkster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think that you should sit her down and really talk to her about it. dont say that you want to be with her again, tell her how u know u screwed up and that your realized you took everything for granted. make sure she knows how sorry you are. Because she replied to you emails and calls you back, chances are she still has feelings for you, but you hurt her once already and she is scared if she gives it another shot that she will get hurt again! you have to look at things from her perspective to. just make sure she knows exactly how u feel, even if she acts like she doesnt care and she doesnt want to hear it, she really does.
2006-12-03 15:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by linderlou2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is afraid that you'll hurt her again, so there is nothing much you can do except be a friend. Don't push her into any thing she is not ready to handle.
You may have to just give up the idea of having a loving relationship. Sorry for that if it happens.
2006-12-03 23:44:02 · answer #2 · answered by Aliz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its funny everyone else has said to move on, biut i dont think you should. it sounds like to me that she still cares about you if she is answering your emails (well was). i think she is jus afraid of you hurting her again. she is jus being very careful...its understandable. yea i would jus be slow about it but im not sure if she is tryin to brush you off by saying 'stop emailing me' or if she wants to see if you really care and still keep tryin to write her??! oh is she in a relationship now? if so then its jus really bad timing to come out with this on your mind...jus wait til the RIGHT time
laters~
hopefully i helped.
2006-12-03 23:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by endless possibilities 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if u just cant get over her( I'm in the same situation with my ex boyfriend) just tell her how u feel and see where it goes from there. If it doesn't work just move on life's too short!
2006-12-03 23:42:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is time to learn from your mistakes and move forward. The past is the past. You need to mature your personality, know how to treat people and know what you want and search it out. She has moved on, it is time for you to move forward also. Good Luck.
2006-12-03 23:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey i think its sweet and i think that of you know that she is the one that you love then you should DEFINATLY keep trying..and dont give up.if you do your feeling are only going to get worse as you se her and you try to move on....KEEP TRYING......well good luck...
bec
2006-12-03 23:42:19 · answer #6 · answered by bec 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's an ex,just move on.
2006-12-03 23:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you need to move
2006-12-03 23:40:32 · answer #8 · answered by daisygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry i would have answered but i keep falling asleep reading your question.yours bored.
2006-12-03 23:37:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋