its not like im gonna get married anytime soon,, but i know i will once my bf becomes ready financially.. i'll make it simple. im scared because married people always seem to have suffered from routine that kills the love they've always shared when dating. it's like marriage is the ultimate sin of love. all the magazines emphesize on this issue.. (treason, lies, boring sex life.. etc).. some ppl call marriage the golden prison.. although named "golden".. it still is a prison anyway.
i love him so much and i dont wanna lose this love for the kind of marriage im talkin about.
what can i do to get over these haunting thoughts ?
he'll be ready in few months and i'm scared to death.
2006-12-03 15:29:21 · 11 answers · asked by sara_s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its okay.. its normal to feel that way.. when i first got married i was scared to death.. but the understanding and the respect between me and my husband led to a long term happy marriage..
2006-12-05 13:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth, if you are having feelings like this I do not think you are ready for marriage. Sure, you say you love him so much but how far does that love go. Keeping things interesting is important to a life with another person. It takes both of you to accomplish that task. If you think of marriage as the "golden prison" you are definitely not starting off on the right foot.
Marriage, at least to me, is giving your life to start anew. Sharing your life with that special someone. Your love has to be unconditional. it shouldn't be afraid to take the chance of marriage. You should never feel trapped in a marriage. Ever hear the saying that "if you love something enough, let it go. If it returns to you it was meant to be?"
Have you talked to your boyfriend/finance about this? I really think you should. Get his input on the subject.
2006-12-03 15:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by Pauly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what feels right . . i was scared but marriage doesn't lead to the same old boring routines it's all on how you handle it. The suprises are what helps keep you from becoming routine like getting a call at work asking if you're doing anything and if you'd like to go to a movie and dinner or when he asks how your day is tell if youre waiting for him in bed or something kinda kinky. It's that marriage they get in this mind like they don't have to try anymore for they already have what they want but you have to do little things, just like in a normal relationship to keep the spark and excitment going. But the best part is when getting married and we read our own vows and looking into his eyes and we was all shaken up but meant every word. that was the greatest feeling, and our long talks at night before bed. Things do become routine unless you let me. So don't let that stop you.
2006-12-05 01:52:19 · answer #3 · answered by jessbthegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking of marriage that way. Marriage is basically just a piece of paper. Keep doing what you both like, and if it gets boring to you, then switch it up. When people are together for so long, you're gonna have some boring moments just because you've been together for so long. Just don't let the boring moments take over and ruin a relationship.
2006-12-03 15:36:18 · answer #4 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The observe date would not scare women it scares boys..boys continually think of that in case you assert the observe "date" that there would desire to be extra there or some thing extra is going to take place. That only comes from mixed messaging, all you adult males would desire to assert it what you advise...in case you like an off-the-cuff party say which you like an off-the-cuff party and there are no longer strings related climate this is intercourse or going out. in case you like a date make effective that the two certainly one of you have the comparable definition of a date.
2016-10-13 23:14:03 · answer #5 · answered by porix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage — AAH!
I've read about a few people who have stayed together for years but have never gotten married. They said, "Once you get what you want, the challenge and excitement are gone. We are taking no chances." You can be together without marrying. Try it.
2006-12-03 15:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
20 years same woman no marriage happy.
2006-12-03 15:34:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think it is natural to be scared
good luck in the end and the new beginning
2006-12-03 15:34:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
believe in each other
understand each other
so this will never happen
try it n c dear
2006-12-03 15:33:38 · answer #9 · answered by cool dude 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel,then work to not let this happen to you.
2006-12-03 15:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋