Does anyone have any advice for someone who is about to have sex for the first time?....?

Question

Any suggestions?....

Answer 1

If you can wait...until after you are at least 21. I know that may seem unrealistic these days but I am serious. If you can't or are already 21, here is my advice.

1. Protect yourself in every way!!! Not only with birth control like pills (take them for three months before having intercourse), use condoms as well. Condoms will aid, but not completely protect against other STDs.

2. Be sure that you trust the other person without exception. Ask them to take an AIDS test at the very minimum. A full STD panel including Herpes, is necessary for your protection.

3. Get the HPV vaccination first to protect yourself.

4. Make it a private occasion. Everybody does not need to know.

5. Take your time and be very sure this is the person you want to lose your virginity to. Ask yourself the question, do you love him?? I don't mean infatuated or lusting after them. Think about it long and hard.

Remember once your virginity is gone, you can't get that back.

Good luck and I hope you make the right decision for you. No one else can make the decision for you.

Answer 2

First, I hope your married...

Regardless, if you are concerned about STD's, have him wear a condom. A condom will hurt more the first time, but its better than getting aids or the clap...

If you are worried about children, talk to a doctor and take birth control ahead of time as prescribed.

If you are worried about the act itself, then there's allot you should know.

It will hurt. This is not the time for fast sex. He needs to be aware that you will not want to *do it* for very long, because the pain will not be overwhelming, but it won't feel very good either until you are healed up several days later.

There will be some blood from your ripped hymen. This will get on the sheets, etc. You will want to wear a panty liner afterward with your underwear.

Sex is messy, so it is good to have something close by to clean up with. A towel, a warm washcloth, baby wipes, whatever.

If you are under the age of 18, or are not sure if this is the guy you are going to spend the rest of your life with, there are serious emotional ties that are forged during sex that you may not be aware of, or have the maturity to deal with.

This is a good reason to think about waiting to have sex until you are in a committed relationship, with a man who loves you and is willing to accept the responsibility of raising children with you if you become pregnant.

Sex is made for procreation - so make sure you know what you want for your future before committing to having sex with this guy.

Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Relax.
Turn off the phone.
Take a bath / shower.
Clip your fingernails. Toenails, too.
Put on clean underwear.
Put on some nice quiet music.
Feed the dog / cat, put them out of the room. There's nothing like being stared at by a curious pet when you're in the middle of something new.

Answer 4

Always go slow and easy. Make sure you get some type of lubrication and use plenty of it for easier insertion of him. Try to be relaxed. I know thats hard, considering it will be ur first time, but the more tense you are, the harder it will be to do it so try to relax sweetie! The first time is usually always a bit painful but get past it and it should get better for ya.

Answer 5

Make sure you are doing it for the right reason and not just to be doing it. And use protection. You know what they say, you will be having sex with every person your partner has had sex with.

Answer 6

use a condom...dont do it if the other person is pressuring you(only do it if your ready and want to),before you do it make sure your ready to take on any roles that need to be taken on(parent hood, confronting your parents about it,etc)....sex is risky...but in your question you dont say if your male or female or your age by given us that info we prolyl could have answered your question better!!!but if your female your first time hurts like a son of a *****!

Answer 7

Make sure you are ready. Sex changes everything and if your relationship is not strong enough it sometimes cannot take the pressure of sex. Make sure you use protection and remember the best protection is abstinence.

Answer 8

Make sure you are financially and emotionlly prepared to take on the responsiblity of ALL of the consequences that come from having sex. If you're not then you're not ready to have sex.

Answer 9

Make sure you won't regret it in 10 years. Men don't want a girl who's been around the block too many times.

Answer 10

your body is very special and you should wait until marriage but, since that's not likely to happen hopefully it is a serious loving relationship and not a booty call. Make the first time special have fore play, lots of lubricant and PROTECTION other than that enjoy.