1. i didnt feel an immediate attraction, it took time
2. I feel like i cant live without them
3. My emotions are deep and coming from the heart
4. my mind says its impossible, it wont work
5. i only feel complete when around them
6. we are 8 years apart
7. they hav NO IDEA
8. i risk everything everyday just to see them one more time....
9. i never stop thinking about them
10. sex is not a goal, i could almost care less
this is really affecting me-im become severely depressed when not with them, self destructive, iv lost a bunch of weight, i hav no energy, no appetite, and i hardly sleep
i just cant stop thinking about them and they control MY life
HELP
2006-12-03 15:11:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if i were you and i am in love to, i would take a step ahead and safe the pain and wonder and just tell him how you fell. But don't say the stuff like "I CAN'T LIVE WITH OUT YOU!" Say something like "I really like you and i think it would be nice if we could go out some time." Pick the right time and place. And if he says no then back off and wait. If you love him you will wait.
2006-12-03 15:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by cute_so_shoot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it doesnt seem like (at least from you question) they feel the same for you so i wish you could add more details. if the feelings are mutual hten there shouldnt really be a problem age is just a number (unless youre a minor!) then that might explain why you said you "risk everything". if thats the case then it probably wont work and you should busy yourself with friends and other activities. anyway i guess i really cant answer wihtout that crusial info. im sorry but i hope in someway this maybe helped. good luck hon.
2006-12-03 23:18:44 · answer #2 · answered by nightyzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie... the only person that can help you is YOU! You have to tell this person how you feel... It sounds like your either in love or obsessive...
My boyfriend and I are 9 years apart and have been together for 5 years now! We broke up once because I was stupid and then I realized I couldn't live without him... so I told him I had to talk to him and then I couldn't spit the words out of my mouth that I had to be with him, I was speechless
then he told me "well obviously if you can't say it you don't mean it!"
There was no control over myself... or the words that came out of my mouth "I still love you!" We've been together ever since.... so what I'm saying is call him now... tell him you have to see him... don't' overwhelm him... just tell him that you think that you 2 should give it a shot!
Good Luck
2006-12-03 23:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by moon_fariey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, do you know if he feels the same way? Hopefully he does in which case slowly let him know how serious you are. You don't want to sound too pushy though cause that will just scare him off. I had all of your symptoms over my husband when we started dating and it turned out for the best. If he doesn't feel the same way you should seek some professional help or find another guy so you can be happier.
2006-12-03 23:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by Briana C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a real question or some kinda play at poetry?????? Is they or them a boy or a girl? and what your feeling sounds perfectly normal for someone in love. You need to take a chill pill and go and talk to a councellor or psychiatrist or anyone really before you get all psycho or something. I think your obsessed sorry baby
2006-12-03 23:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by Vicky B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... have you ever watched Fatal Attraction? You sound like Glenn Close.
You need to tell the person how you feel and see where it goes from there. If the person says they don't feel the same way, then you need to find something else to put your energy into. You might want to find something to put all of your energy into right now, and realize it's just an infatuation right now.
2006-12-03 23:16:41 · answer #6 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you have a problem there...well i think you should slowly spill the beans...because if you let it loose all at once the person your in love with would get freaked out...I dont think age matters either. My parents are 10 years apart and they were in love! if you dont let him know slowly how you feel about him you might eventually end up killing yourself...by the sounds of it!
2006-12-03 23:15:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
them? or him.......you need to be honest with that person(s) and let out your true feelings or else it will keep getting on you...it depends...if your like 11 and they're 19...then no....but the older you are, the easier the age difference.....try not to be so hard on yourself.....i understand the depression, it something alot of people struggle with, including me, but every cloud has a silver lining.....keep your head above water...this will pass too....
2006-12-03 23:14:10 · answer #8 · answered by College Wifey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure that what you're experiencing is love, but infatuation. They don't even know? Why haven't you told them? don't let this control your life. you seem a bit obsessed. try to focus on other things. love doesn't make you self destructive.
2006-12-03 23:14:09 · answer #9 · answered by -- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that's the first tep i went throught the same thing with my best friend for years...turned out he like me too and now were getting engaged soon...if you don't make the first step you'll drive yourself crazy until it consumes you....be brave and take the plunge....if you really feel this strongly it should be worth it in the end....
2006-12-03 23:15:35 · answer #10 · answered by Danielle S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋