I am love with this woman and I know she is in love with me. She has trouble expressing her feelings. I see the love in her eyes. She was married for 8 years. We took a break about a month ago and started talking and hanging out again just recently. Every woman I have ever dated, it has been very short term because I didn't want to commit to anyone because they didn't reach me with the body, mind, and soul. I finally met someone that touches my heart in that way and I want to fight for it. I think that I am a great man with a big heart. I would never force a decision out of someone because I have too much respect for her. When do I give up and move on with my life? I don't want to, but I don't want to waste my time and hurt myself more. I have never felt this way about anyone and I want her in my life. When you meet a soulmate, it is hard to let that go.
2006-12-03 14:54:50 · 4 answers · asked by Christopher G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it ain't broke, don't fix it. You don't have to be married to be together. Express to her what you've just written.
2006-12-03 14:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by E B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, I'm so sorry that you're hurting like you are. but you can't make this woman commit when she doesn't want to. she has to be willing to trust whole heartedly again in order for your relationship to work. just remind her that you're not the man from her past who obviously scarred her very badly, and that she should know that after 2 and 1/2 yrs. explain to her, how much it hurts you when after all this time, she still won't give you 100% of her heart. it's really unfair to you to have to deal with this day after day. she really needs to make a decision. if she never lets herself give 100% again, she will be hurting herself most of all, because it's just like she's letting her ex still control her life. maybe she's never looked at it this way, and she needs to. she needs to completely let go of the past, so that she'll be able to move on to the future with you. if she is willing to do that, I know the two of you will have a great future ahead of you.
I Wish You the Very Best.
2006-12-03 23:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by atiana 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Always be there for her and let her know that she can trust you. Don't give up on her even when she gives up on herself. Believe me, I was married for 8 years and now divorced. It takes time, but eventually she will come to be sure of you and when it happens, it will be worth the wait.
2006-12-03 22:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by pixie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You & her need to talk through these issues.
If she cannot commit, then you need to let go & move on.
2006-12-03 22:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋