Parent Problems?

Question

When I couldn't have a cd for the entire afternoon and instead of having it for just half an hour, I gave it back to my parents. I got grounded for being so negative. Up in my room, I could hear my parents starting to fight. Than I got called down again about five minutes later. My mom screamed at me that it was all my fault that my mom and dad were fighting. Then my dad said I had ruined the entire dinner (we had ordered chinese food in) and that because of it, I was going to pay for it. He made me take out my wallet, give him the $40 that I had earned babysitting for six hours the day before, and said that I also owed him $50 more. I climbed the stairs up to my room only to be called down again to clean the kitchen because my mom didn't want to have to clean up the dinner that I had ruined. Right now, I am terribly guilty and very, VERY scared. I know what what I did was wrong, but do I deserve the punishments for such a stupid thing, or am I just feeling sorry for myself?

Answer 1

your parents sound kind of abusive.

Answer 2

Your parents are doing the best they can. Kill them with kindness and responsibility.

You sound like a pretty mature girl, so keep up the good work. Try to appreciate what you do get, even if it's not for as long as you would like it to be. That will help you out a lot once you get out on your own. As an adult you will find that more often than not you don't get what you want or even what you think you deserve. That is just the way it is.

Answer 3

I understand your situation. The punishments they gave you were a but harsh I would say. I think it was wrong of your parents to put that kind of blame on you. They shouldn't make you feel like sh*t for happened nor should they make you feel that the whole world is going to come to an end because of your actions..

Just stay positive and remember there are always people here who will back you up! At least now you know not to do it again.

Answer 4

You soooo don't deserve that. Over a little thing like a CD, no way!! There's got to be a bigger problem between your parents or in the family that has them taking it out on you. Just try to stay positive and know that it's not your fault and go with the flow. Try to stay away from them when they get testy and do whatever they ask and even stuff that they don't. Good Luck and have faith!

Answer 5

Your parents are not allowing you to experience a very healthy emotion, anger. This will eventually cause you to have problems later in life if you do not come to realize it now.
The dinner was not ruined by you. Just because they vent their anger on one another and are unable to accept the responsibility for their own bickering episode, they pick on someone who they feel is helpless. You need to learn to not let them know all your business in reference to your own money you earned. They are not worthy of your trust. They extorted your own earned money by using guilt. DO NOT feel guilty! That is NOT a feeling you have earned. It is a feeling that they victimized you with. SHAME ON THEM! Get their e-mail address and I will tell them a thing or two. I raised children and never did I speak to them with so much abuse and disrespect! Shame, shame, shame on them. Keep your head up, nothing lasts forever. When they give you something, would not it be nice if conditions were not attached. Don't tempt your child to anger! It is abuse. A MOM !!!

Answer 6

So, you had a bad attitude...so what is there for the parents to fight about? I don't get it. I can't imagine parents that strict for something so....stupid. Are you sure there isn't something you are not telling us? I wonder if you are an only child. I wonder if you are spoiled. There are so many factors, it is hard to say what is really going on. You said you were scared....about what? Just know, you can't change your childhood, but know it won't last forever. Some day you will look back on it and laugh.

Answer 7

Your parents sound stressed out and they are taking it out on you. Since you cannot change them.................you can change yourself. This punishment seems excessive but take a long look at yourself. Have you been giving them a hard time for awhile and they were just finally sick of it? They are in charge and owing money to them and helping the family pay for dinner is an honor. Thank them for the opportunity. I bet they will be STUNNED and won't know what to think. Be gracious and thankful you have two parents. Alot of kids out there do not.

Answer 8

Oh WTF...
All over a Cd?
Jesus H. Christ this is probably falls under my worst-case screnarion list. You're probably gonna get replies from a bunch of idiots on this thing, so I would just say talk to your friends, and I don't know, just talk to them. They'll know better than anyone else on this site. Why are you feeling guilty anyways? It's not like you forcibly gave back the cd and said here take it... Right?
(I assume you have at least some friends. right?)

Answer 9

You did over react about the CD, but you did not deserve to be treated that way. It sounds like there is more going on with your parents then just one little argument over how to deal with your CD tantrum.

Answer 10

I dont think thats your fault at all. I mean they got angry because u were being negative, PLUS they made u pay for ur family dinner? I dont think thats right..... They cant blame u that u were the reason they were fighting. and if theyre gunna be pissed at u they shouldnt.. they should just talk to u and say wat to do.....

You should let ur parents answer this question and see what theyll feel.

sorry....

Answer 11

you got a very strict family. i think that very unfair and dont think you did anything wrong. something this simple and stupid is just dumb. Suddenly my parents seem very nice lol being grounded for being negative lmao. no offense here though