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My boyfriend, and I have been dating for 3 years. We were dating long distance and than I moved across 4 states and moved in with him for a year. Everything was ok, but than I had to adjust to his friends and family and his Mom is very controlling and wanted me to fill a traditional role of a housewife, and I am a career girl. After living with him for roughly 10 monthes we were supposed to go to a friends wedding and then he told me before hand that he did not think he ever wanted to get married or have kids. We made up a week later, but I decided to move out nontheless now he's living with roommates and I am too and we live on the same city block. He has put more distance between us, but still keeps coming around and treats me like his girlfriend. He did not come to my best friends birthday and I was upset because it was all couples, so I drunk-dialed him and he told me it was rude, than I went over we fought and I left than broke up with him over text message. Is that wrong?

2006-12-03 14:33:58 · 6 answers · asked by Gwen27 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

6 answers

omg yes !!!
to be honest i did not even read the question it was 2 long

2006-12-03 14:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

To me a break up is a break up no matter how you deliver the message to the other person. It would be better if you have done it in person because that would give you an indication on how it affects him. That way you could see his reaction and how important you are in his life. Im not saying that you should use this sort of method to find out the truth from the other person, but sometimes anger does take the best of your emotions. Just step back and recollect on what happened then talk to him before you start breaking up. Good luck to both of you.

2006-12-03 18:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by Macky 2 · 0 0

gwen, ignore the first person who answer this question. lol

ok,serious now...i dont think you have done anything wrong. first seeing someone is easy, living with someone is really hard. and you are willing to move all the way to live with him and he really should appreciate that.

but, i dont know if you have ever tlked about those problems you have with the housewife tradtion thing with tour boyfrd or not, so i cant comment on that one.

and i think to be a gentleman or a boyfrd, he should understand that you are drunk, and in that case he should know that you will have less control of your behaviour.

finally, anger, ego, unconcious always win and make people do things that they usually think its wrong. but i think wt you should do now is, let this cool down for a bit. and tlk over it, whatever the outcome may be,

sorry, my eng isnt really good, so some of the sentences may not make sense, hope you know what i am trying to say.

good luck

2006-12-03 14:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by heartless_916 2 · 0 1

You bottled things up in the past, maybe in the 10 mths while co-habitting. I guess that's why now, even the simpliest issue, like not coming to a birthday, flares you up. You guys are getting on each others' nerves. Try getting away from everyone, go for a short holiday...talk things out...hopefully the relationship will work out. ALL THE BEST!!!

2006-12-03 14:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by Bear 3 · 1 0

i think he doesnt want to be with you on a serious basis. its amazing what a guy will do for you when he wants to be with you and equally amazing what stunts he will pull when he doesnt.

it sounds like he wants you as a casual gf and nothing more. we have all done the drunk/ angry texts and calls but it sounds like hes been waiting for an excuse not to be with you in a serious way.

if its meant to be then things will work itself out.

i think though if im honest you would be better off with someone who really cares about you. not someone who puts 'distance between you'

good luck

2006-12-03 18:59:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It seems to me that you two are going nowhere. Split cleanly and start afresh.

2006-12-03 16:40:40 · answer #6 · answered by Saudi Geoff 5 · 0 0

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