what is wrong wit me?

Question

i hav met a grl that i like. she always waits for me after class and always wants a hug, but i play hard to get and say no. she always wants to lay on me like i'm a sofa. when we talk on the phone, we talk for eva. she makes me say thatt i luv her and i do but sometimes when she saids it,it doesn't sound like she means it. i really like her but i have tried everything that i possibly can. help me get a hold of her. i don't want to lose her. can you give advice please.

-oregon boy in need of help

Answer 1

You're not that in to her.

Answer 2

Well , I am guessing you are about 16 or so , if that is the case and you think she is not being honest with you, will you can ask her to do something that requires effort on her part and I am not talking sex , if she cares enough for you to help with something as stupid as preparing a meal or helping you do Laundry maybe she cares about you for starters love at you age is a very dangerous thing because non of you really understand what is life have for you so do your self a favor wait until you finish your college keep her as a friend even as close friend let her earn your affection don't just give your self not until you are 100 % sure and wait , your hormones is controlling your feeling right now all men go through the same thing , hold of on sex because you can destroy yourself and others if you not careful , by the way she really doesn't know what she wants right now the same as any one in your age, just be patient good things come to those who are smart and wise and nice so you can respect yourself 20 years from now. Don't follow the crowd or be corrupted by them. Follow come in sense and find a good roll model not some low life that he thinks his cool, Let me know if this conversation is too much for you , I am telling from experience , your school and success in life comes first every thing else follows and always keep positive people around you any time you feel bad about something just think of someone who is less fortunate than you and he might not have the chances you have , there people out there that live in the streets and eat out of a garage , just do you part not to end up in a bad place , life is good if you make the good choices and always follow your gut the voice inside that tells this is wrong , success is about discipline your self no one can do that for you but you , and no one can be hard on you if you are hard on your self and believe in your self and don't be arrogant and selfish , be confident and believe in God that he created you from good , bad is just a treat of people who gave up and were selfish and always made decision that can hurt and destroy others look after your self by your own hard work in other words take responsibilities for your actions sometimes you will make mistakes but don't make the same one twice always remember what is your goal and follow your dreams , your are what you think act and do , so make the best of your younger years , they will not come back ever again the chances you waste now you will miss later in life , I hope this will help you to focus on your life and where you going

Answer 3

First, u hav to realize that losing sum1 u love in life is sumthing that happens to EVERYBODY.
I dont think u should play hard to get if you really like her but from your story it seems that she's acting a bit too much, like trying to get all your attention. But on the other hand she doesnt really mean when she says "i luv u" so the situation is pretty confusing. I'd say neither one of u really like each other. It more seems as if you both were playing some kind of a game.
So what u can do in the meantime is to talk openly to her. Discuss what you both really want. If she likes u then she'll b with you. If not, kiss her gudbye & find sum1 else.

Answer 4

very nice. i've had a similar thing happen to me. the next time she's laying on you, you should talk to her about actually dating and going out and stuff. you have to build up the courage to talk to her about this. even if she says no, if shes a good friend (which she sounds like she is) she will tell you that you guys can still be friends. the worse thing that can happen is that she doesnt want that kind of relationship with you. theres nothing really wrong with you, its just nerves. the only way to get her is to risk losing her as a gf and hopefully not a friend.

Answer 5

I don't get it. You say she waits for you after class and wants a hug and lays on you like a sofa and you talk for ever...sounds to me like she likes you and you like to play games. The only advice I can give you is "stop playing games and grow up". If you like her...tell her. If she wants a hug...give it to her. What's the problem?

Answer 6

Well you sound young. If you like her then don't be so macho and tell her from your heart how you feel. Go out sometime to go to luch and hang out with her. Ask her if she means it that she loves you and be honest with her. Girls love honesty even if it hurts. Just be more open to her you seem like you are shutting her down instead of telling her to quit hugging you so much or "only tell me you love me if you mean it" you know? you have to be a little more sure of what you want without being hard to read. We are not mind readers.

Answer 7

Well the way that u put it, it sounds that she likes u by what u say. U should just ask her out face to face, or over the phone since u 2 talk for ever

Answer 8

I think you should play along with her games, she's testing you.Every gal needs that kind of affection. you play hard to get and she knows that, the only way she can get you back on that one is to make you think she doesn't love you,thats why she isn't sounding serious.She probably does mean that she loves you. The things shes doing to you are her ways of affection toward you, so; in conclusion accept it. Give her what she wants that will only make her want you more! good luck

Answer 9

"Oregon boy in need of spell checker"......I think it's pretty much just the fact that you can not spell. Your girlfriend seems nice, so I really don't know what the problem is other than you seem insecure about something. Good luck with that.

Answer 10

Girls are hard to figure out, a girl did this kind of stuff with me for a year and during this time I had my friends ask her if she liked me and she would always say "not as a boyfriend". Everyone including my and her parents thought we were going out. but one day we just stopped and we never went out. so my advice is to just ask her if she ever thinks you could be more than friends.

Answer 11

i think what's wrong with you is that you're afraid to express your emotions. try being sweet to her without her having to make you say it. do stuff for her. surprise her. once you start doing it, it would be easier. if you don't you'll definitely lose her because no matter how much she likes you, she'll get tired waiting on you. and stop thinking that she doesn't mean it. you should be able to take risks.