Help??????????

Question

I'ma senior in high school, do you think that it is arrogant to just go up to a group of people out of the blue and ask if you can sit with them at lunch or something like that. I know them all and they all like me and I like all them and I've known them for years even though we're not really close friends but I don't know if that's like inviting myself and it's arrogant and I should just forget it. I mean I'll be out in a few months but I'd really like to spend more time with them

This answer I got is really interesting and it's what I'm worried about, "On the other hand, you've known them for the last ten years and you haven't bothered to make friends and now you wanna sit with them? " What do you think about that?

Answer 1

its a simple answer... do what you want to do... your life will be better for it.

Answer 2

I don't think it's arrogant, since you say you would really like to spend more time with them. But it is strange since you're not really that close. I guess what I'd try to do is to build a stronger relationship with them instead of coming "out of the blue" to sit with them at lunch. Gradually, you'll get to know more about them, and them about you. Then, the transition to lunch time won't be such a shock, and by graduation then, hopefully, you're made a couple more "good" friends.

Answer 3

Of course not! Don't worry! That's not arrogant at all. Thats like saying that asking to sit by someone on the bus is arrogant. Go ahead and ask! I'm sure they'll say yes.

Answer 4

What kind of school do you attend? Do there seem to be unwritten rules against being friendly with people who are not a part of your group? I don't think it is arrogant at all but then I don't know how your school mates will react to it. If they react negatively you'll survive and be outta there in a few months anyway so i say go for it.

Answer 5

Go for it. As long as you are looking for friendship with these other students then it is not arrogant. Let them know your genuine intent and it will be alright. Friends are hard to make after school years, so hold on while you can and form those friendships, they can last a lifetime.

Answer 6

Why would that be arrogant? If they don't want you to sit there and tell you that, they would be the rude ones, not you. But people don't always make common sense by their social actions in high school.

Answer 7

Approach the one who is the friendliest to you sometime during the day and say, "Hey, is it ok to join you for lunch today?" and if you want add, " I mean I would not want to intrude." That way you will not be dealing with the "pack mentality" just an individual. Never put yourself in a subservient position with an audience! You are just as good as they are. This maintains your integrity. Good Luck!

Answer 8

Go for it. When people are already in a group setting, they don't usually think of anyone else. They would probably love your company and have just not thought about inviting you in. Give it a try, you can never have too many friends.

Answer 9

I wouldn't say it's arrogant....arrogant would be going up to them and saying "I know you all want me to sit with you but are just embarrassed to ask".

Answer 10

I don't think it's arrogant at all. You will be doing this sort of thing a lot after high school--there's nothing wrong with it.

Answer 11

No, your not being arrogant. You just like spending time with people and being sociable. As long as you're nice and positive and friendly it's alright.