Men! I have some issues, can you help me?

Question

One of the things about being attractive is that you are use to getting what you want. I have a wonderful man in my life and sometimes I wonder why he is sticking around. Some of the things that he just do not know others he does. First I cheated on him six times with two men half his age.(20) Then I spent the night with another man(nothing happened). I can throw tantrums. The thing is that I love him, I really do. He is a good man. A really good man. I will never tell him about the other men. He is starting to pull away a little bit. How can I get that closeness back?

Some of you are really mean!! I feel guilty now, and that is new for me. I do not plan to continue my actions.

I am starting to get a tad offended. I would NEVER be with a man outside my relationship without protection. Next there is NOTHING fake about me, all natural.

Answer 1

Before I start I would like to warn you to pace yourself as this is not going to be all nice and I'm sure others are not going to be nice either but you asked for our opinons so you better have an open mind....
I'm sorry but you are just way to full of yourself.There is probably no conceet in your family, as you have it all.
You might be attracted on the outside but not in the inside where it counts the most.
If you really loved this man you wouldn't of went out and cheated on him in the first place.That is not love, that is selfishness.
Here you are with a man that is willing to give you everything.
He loves and trusts you and this is the thanks you give him.I am now questioning why he is sticking around(oh ya,that's right he is being played a fool and doesn't even know it)
You do this and whatever else you are not mentioning,he knows somethings but not all and you wonder why he is pulling away,your lucky he is pulling away and that he did not run away.
You have more beauty then brains... cause if you did have any, you would know you already have it all.
You probably do not even realize how many females envy you to have what you have.Do you know how many women want what you have(man wise) and can't seem to get it,and they have 100% better attitude and personality then you have.
You do not deserve to have him but since you do and you say you want it back you will have to come straight out and ask him why he is pushing away and go from there.
If you honestly know he is a good man and he will treat you right you better work hard to keep him.
You might think I am so attractive I can get whoever and what ever I want...Truth is,...it does not always work that way,luck eventually runs out.You may be on a roll right now but if you loose what you have you might be looking at yourself and questioning what happened and wondering why you are not getting men like you use to. Looks only for work for awhile then it is gone,as it is just a novelty.True beauty is whats held within.
You may come up to a women that is not so attrative and has a drop dead georgous guy on her side and the guy might of seen her in the same way you did until he got to know her and just in the personality and attitude she became extremely attractive.
Maybe what you did is your own little"reality" check to make sure you still got it...but... is that really more important then what you already have?You may think yup I still got it,... but,I also no longer have a relationship where a man truly loves me, and a desease that has a life sentence attached to it... will you then be saying but I still got it..... I don't think so.Instead you should be telling yourself I did pretty darn good for myself and most of my life I got what I wanted...Now I have everything.
Settle down with it,enjoy it and appreciate it.Hold on to him and give back to him that he offers you and gloat about it.
Concider yourself extremely lucky and hold on to what is left and work on getting it together if not let him go and let him have what he deserves with someone that is NOT going to take what he has to offer for grantite.

Answer 2

First thing you need to do is figure out what it is you want out of this relationship with this guy. It sounds to me like you want your cake and eat it to. Honey, you just can't do that sort of thing to people. You shouldn't be doing that sort of thing to YOURSELF! If he is such a good man, than you are lucky to have him. I don't think you should try and pull him back if you cannot treat him with the respect he needs.

Having a relationship means devoting your attentions to that person. If you cannot do that, then you need to not have a relationship. Sleeping around will only get you, the very least pregnant with a unwanted child, or worse a disease that will KILL YOU!!!

Being attractive is a gift -- but remember, like most gifts it gets old. If you don't have anything else to offer in a relationship, you will find yourself, one day, old and alone. You need to be attractive on the inside, as well. Stop thinking of just yourself, and do something unselfish, like volunteer at a local club that may be organizing holiday giving.

Beauty fades (unless you are rich and can spend TONS to look young longer, but end up just looking like a Muppet, just look at Joan Rivers!), but a big heart NEVER goes away!

Answer 3

Well, I don't know how old you are. But if you really like this guy so much, why don't you act like it? Be a good woman if you want him to be close to you! He might feel that there's something wrong (well, he's right). Now, I'm all for honesty, but I think you will ruin things if you tell him what you did. So I don't think you should rock the boat. From now on, treat him right. Be as good to him as he has been to you. Take good care of him, and you two will probably get close again. If you are not willing to treat him right (eg, treating him with respect and keeping your relationship exclusive), then leave him. Good night!

Oh yeah, if you ever tell him what you did, be patient. If he will have anything to do with you after telling him, he will be hurt, angry, confused, etc. You will really have your work cut out for you when it comes to comforting him. I think it's possible to work things out, but only if you are both very patient and he is very forgiving. Good luck!

Answer 4

Dont let the guys or girls here dog you about cheating. MOST people cheat, and it takes courage to come clean on issues like this. Now I'm not saying you have courage or anything; after all, you didnt tell your husband about your cheating.

It is only natural that a human being will find it extremely erotic and incredibly hot and sexy to cheat on their spouse. Let me illustrate: "But I have a husband, baby, I cant have sex with you. Oh my gosh, you have a huge ****. I am such a bad girl and I deserve to be spanked." That is how cheating will go most of the time.

Now anyway. The reason why you ACTUALLY love him is because he has lots of money, pays all your bills, and bought you big plastic ^i^ies that you are able to boast about to your fellow female co-workers. I'm not putting you down, only expressing my oppinion. How do you get that closeness back? Well the same way you got it before, with your looks and your sex appeal.

Answer 5

From a bit of experience i can only guess that he might know what you did. This happened to me a few months ago and it is an easy thing to tell if someone has done that to you behind your back. They act different talk different. That's how i caught my now x partner out. If you really love him prove it to him by staying faithful. Its a huge kick in the guts to find out that someone you love can do that to you. He is obviously sticking around because he loves you and trusts you. hope this helps. Good luck

Answer 6

first of all you should have never cheated on him. if you want to be with other guys then maybe you should be single. maybe he can sense that you cheated on him by your actions and thats why he is pulling away. when you are with someone for a long time some times its very easy to sense when there is something wrong. trust me i know i just went through all this myself. my advise to you is if you want to experiment with other guys then maybe you should break up with him hurt him once instead of over and over again. i dont know how to fix your problem if he thinks something is wrong and thats why he is pulling away then he will probably always feel that way. sorry if i offend you but thats how i see it. try to give him a little more attention maybe that will help:) bye

Answer 7

are you sure that it is him that is pulling away?? and what does being attractive have to do with it??? i dont get that part...but ok..
i imagine that you are pulling away now too...since youve cheated..perhaps he knows
i wouldnt call you a whore like some on here but you dont care about him that much or you wouldnt have let temptation get the best of you...it can be hard i know but doesnt mean you have to give in to it...and...where is he while your spending the night with someone else??? you should wonder that too..

Answer 8

Girl you messed up big especially because hes drifting away now imagine what he'll do when he finds out that you've been cheating on him with 2 men and especially have his age you need to be ashamed of yourself.

Answer 9

Give attention to him. You're focusing on other guys instead of the man you got. If you really love him & don't want to lose him, than stop cheating on him.

Answer 10

Wow, you sound just like my slu**y girlfriend, who thinks she is so smooth and that i don't know what a whore she is. A smart man can sense when he;s been cheated on.

You don't love him or you wouldn't do this crap. you need professional mental counseling, and a good slap! It's tramps like you that spread diseases to respectable guys that don't cheat.

Move on whore