I stopped see this one guy because he wasn't over his gf. The last night we hung out we talked about everything. He told me he didn't have Closure with his ex gf when they broke up. He also said that he can't be in a relationship with anyone even though he has such strong feels for me and so on!
A week later he calls me i don't answer
then the third time he calls i answer and he tells me he got Closure with his ex and he wants to hang out now.
I told him i was busy this week and had to think about it.
I never called him so he calls me and asks why i haven't called
him. I keep telling him that I'm really busy. I just don't want to go through that again. I don't know what to say to him without being mean. I hate having guys think im ***** because I'm not. What should i say?
2006-12-03 13:58:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him that your seeing someone? or tell him that your not ready for a relationship? last resort tell him you just don't see him as your b.f anymore. you see him more like a friend.or acquaintance lol
2006-12-03 14:03:02 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that this guy is more concern about himself than you. He wants to be ready when he's ready; not willing to compromise for the sake of the relationship.
There's so much you can say to a guy. If he already prejudged you in his mind, whatever you say will still be in a negative light. Sometimes guy pretends to not understand your message just so they'll have the opportunity to continue pursuing what they want.
Be as nice and kind in delivering the message to him as you think is possible and the rest is out of your control. His perception of you is reflected half on how you are and half on how his want you to be. You can only control your half. If you try your best to be nice and he thinks different of it, then that's just his opinion. It's not your fault. Move on and let him be who he wanna be.
2006-12-03 14:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by thrill5eeker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you need to be a little harsh, to get your point across. Just be honest, without trying to soften it up. Be clear about it. I'm not saying you have to be a b*tch about it. Even though he might feel it that way because he's being blown off. But just say it straight out.
2006-12-03 14:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by StormyWeather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt give him another chance cos there is no way he couldve got closure that quick. anyway, just tell him you think he is a good guy and that you are glad he has got closure, but the time for you two has passed. its not selfish of you to want a guy to only have feelings for you. just mention you dont think he is capable of that yet. goodluck
2006-12-03 14:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really liked the guy..give him another chance; otherwise tell him you have a new man and that he got his closure a little too late!
2006-12-03 14:04:16 · answer #5 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth: you are not interested anymore. Simple. Don't play games. I know I would appreciate an honest person. Good luck.
2006-12-03 14:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by jandracu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first things first don't worry about hurting his feelings ...just say no i don't want to go out with you ... to be honest that is the only way he will leave you alone other wise you will just be leading him on and that is worse... by far... good luck
2006-12-03 14:03:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would stop seeing him for at least a few weeks so that he can get some more distance from her and his old relationship. then see how things are at that point.
2006-12-03 14:02:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just print out your question and give it to him. If he is a man then he will understand and move on with his life!
2006-12-03 14:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by bn_4600 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you seem to like him at first, but not now.. only a week later??
2006-12-03 14:02:14 · answer #10 · answered by Its me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋