Why am I not very social?

Question

For some reason I don't really talk to people that much. It's like I just do not know what to say to people.I do not have that many freinds in school,even though I try to make friends.I try to start conversations, but I just do not know how to start it or how to keep it up. I also feel like im being rejected in school.I also feel a lot of anger in my school. I keep it in though. Do I have some sort of mental disorder?

Answer 1

I wouldn't say mental disorder. Perhaps low self esteem. Now, if you are not a good talker, be a good listener. Most people don't have others to listen to their problems. just listen, don't give advise. Lend your shoulder to others.
When it comes to subjects, try to be up to date with news or events at your school, get involved in sports, or other activities and you will make friends more easily. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Oh My God.....First of all, get it out of your mind that your sick. You're not. Loneliness is not an illness. Listen, so what if you don't have many friends- its more important to have few good ones. If you really want to make more friends and be comfortable around people, a few things: try to keep up with the latest in everything( use ur time alone to catch up on what's going on in the world)- that way no matter who the person is next to you, u'll have something to say; if you don't have something to say, thats okay, be comfortable with silence- its not a crime. Its okay not to say something all the time. Everyone has somewhere they belong- doesn't have to be school. I'm sure u have a hobby, follow up on it- find a group that shares your interest. U like books join a book club, like science join the science club- and remember it doesn't have to be in school. Look for some in ur library, ur neighborhood.
Anger....u shouldn't be angry....especially not at yourself....If you think you get angry a lot, find a physical activity that makes u spend a lot of energy like boxing, karate, running and the sorts. Find a physical activity that leaves you no time to think while you're doing it. Pent your anger that way- it certainly works for me.
Last piece of advice: All you can do is to try to make friends with the world. But if the world can't accept you for who you are, screw the world. But, never ever put yourself down- be happy with who you are and remember that you are your only true measure- you'll only be as good as you want to be.

Answer 3

Been there, still kind of there. I hear you!
My single mother was poor and a depressive recluse besides.
I think if I could have turned to her for advice, good advice, I might have been just fine. Even wearing clothes that were ten years old, I could have fought my way to self-respect, and then others' respect, and more friends after that.
But, I'm older now, and I dress better, and I talk to people a lot more, and all, and my last major thing is to be able to get started and show others I'm interested instead of just waiting all the time for others' acceptance first.
Remember, others have felt what you feel, deep down. They may have learned to assume that your not saying "hi" is your problem, to protect themselves from being hurt. So they think you're stand-offish, not shy. My guess is, when you think about how they might feel, you will find it easier to not worry quite as much about yourself.
And that's often the way it is with our negative emotions.
Even when it's just a matter of me feeling lazy, I think about the people I might let down, not be a good role model for, not be a good partner for, and I move.
Same here.
Good luck. I hope you find plenty of people both in and out of Yahoo! to help you out. (I know I have.)

Answer 4

I have social phobia and I am almost the same way. (I am a little worse) You may have it. but it is always best to speak with a therapist for these types of things.

Answer 5

Why is it you must be like others? Just be you, and that is OK.

Answer 6

This might be helpful
http://sensitive-psychoworld.blogspot.com/