Should I keep in contact?

Question

I was in a committed relationship with a man for over a year. We ended badly/abruptly due to poor timing and his inability to try to work things out. I ended it because I wasn't happy, but have kept minor contact via email. Recently, the emails have been cute...and charming. It makes me think how much I really miss him all these months later. I know my friends would tell me to stop beause he has hurt me before, but this seems so different. I still really love him, but I don't know his true feelings. Any thoughts? Serious answers please...I just need some outside perspective.

Answer 1

depends on what he did to hurt you. Can that be forgotten, will it never happen again? think with your mind and not with your heart before making a decision. You can't back out again.It does'nt take too much to write sweet e-mails...Sorry about sounding pessimistic...

Answer 2

I was in a short-lived committed relationship that ended very badly. I tried to reestablish contact afterwards through e-mail but he never responded. I realized that men are wired different and when they get "dumped" by you they are not to willing to forget it. So would you say that you can forget how much he hurt you? Are you willing to take on round 2? I realized even though you love someone that doesn't mean that you can be with them and moved on with my life. My friends and family said it was the best thing I could have done for "Me". I know it's hard not to be vulnerable but sometimes that's what you have to do is not allow yourself to be sucked in again!! Best Wishes! : D

Answer 3

I think you need to be really careful. He may be charming in his emails, but his character probably has not substantially changed. You would need to have a real conversation with him to see if he would want to have another try at a relationship and you would have to seriously assess whether or not the problems you had before could be changed. Best of luck in whatever you decide!

Answer 4

I would say feel it out. He has played the field and came up empty, now he's attempting to come back home. I would not let it happen. "His inability to work things out", for me, that says it all.

Answer 5

I think you should just come out and ask him how he feels about you. If he does in fact care for you, take it from there. Follow what your heart tells you to do.

Answer 6

First you have to ask yourself, will I die for him, love is an amazing feeling, and many are fooled by it because of it's feeling. If you love him, right now, you're friend's comments don't matter.

Answer 7

keepgoing as a email frendship, cos in real life, it never works with him