I have been with my boyfriend off and on for two years now. We have had a lot of problems througout our relationship, but things are finally starting to go well...Except now he's on this kick where he says I "bug him". If I call him and he doesn't answer me *all day*, and then I call him back, or text him he'll start declining the calls and flat out ignoring him because he says I am "bugging him". Its not like I mean to do it, but I think its wrong to ignore your girlfriend. Anyway...some of my friends think that this is how abusive relationships start out because whenever I "bug him" he'll ignore me, and completly treat me like crap, and then he'll apologize and say he'll never do it again...then a few weeks later we're back to the same problem. Am I really just bugging him, and need to stop? What do you guys think? And please no sarcastic answers...
2006-12-03 13:34:32 · 4 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Definitely not in the wrong. Just wanting to talk for a moment or two is a good thing. You are showing interest in his life, and he should appreciate this enough to at least answer you. If he is busy, then he can at least tell you a proper time to call. I personally enjoyed it when my last girlfriend would call to tell me even the most trivial of things, it let me know that she was thinking of me when it happened. It's the little conversations and chit-chat that help keep a relationship strong.
2006-12-03 13:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by jj_skinner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're just a glutton for punishment to me. I mean, c'mon, miss lady. Why would you want a guy who treats you this way? Do you actually get something out of it? You know calling him is NOT bugging him. Unless you're calling and texting 24/7, it shouldn't be a problem that you called him maybe once, then again a little later, just to reach him. If you don't have anything to say other than, "Whatcha doin'?", then you MIGHT be bugging him, but just basic, general, day-to-day calling is NOT, again, bugging him. What boyfriend who cares about his girlfriend wouldn't want to talk to her? I don't even see why you care how this lout perceives you. Obviously, he's pretty sure of you and your dedication to him--that's why he's so indifferent. And any guy who's going to blatantly ignore you, obviously decline your calls, apologize and do it again, KNOWS you have nothing better to do, or no ONE better to do, but deal with his crap. I say dump him, but since you've been putting up with his mess for so long, I doubt you'll do that. I mean, you're here, in some anonymous forum, asking strangers what they think about this jerk. Did you really need a stranger to tell you something you already know? What you need to stop is being with him.
2006-12-03 21:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by dangerouspoet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya know, this sounds just like somethin i went through over a year ago. the chance is he's ignoring u b/c he doesnt want to be with you anymore, he loves someone else, or he's being an @$$. either way, u need to protect yourself and tell him its either he stops ignoring you or its over plain and simple. yeah itll be hard tellin him that, i had to break up with my bf 3 months ago b/c he wasnt sure of his feelings for me, and i didnt want to break up with him. your bf is hurting you, itll be better for you to be w/out him and healing than bein with him and hurting. oh yeah, youre NOT buggin him, hes just bein an @$$.
2006-12-03 21:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by sarah_gotdance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Today, he's ignoring you.
Tomorrow, he is leaving you and your babies because he "needs space".
2006-12-03 21:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋