Ive been involved with my boyfriend for 4 years and the last couple of weeks Ive noticed he is up his mothers butt and constanltly kissing his ex wifes ***, they have had more contact with him in the last two weeks then I have and I live with the man, I understand he has to keep in contact with the ex due to their children no problem, when they argue he is all lovey dovey towards me and when they are getting along he treats me like ****, I also understand mom is mom but sometimes the apron string have to be cut, ( he is 31 yrs old). What should I do I feel as If Im being swept under the carpet and I hate feeling this way. Sometimes I feel he needs to be sharing the bed with his ex wife and his mom. Should I leave this situation or be calm and wait and see what happens? Im confused.
2006-12-03 13:23:24 · 3 answers · asked by onehotmama 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First off, don't be confused. If you feel that way, then go with your feelings. The one thing we all do wrong to ourselves, is we second guess our feelings. It sounds as though you are right to feel that way. However, I don't think he is trying to sweep you under the rug but maybe, just maybe, mom is trying to get him back with is ex! Now don't get upset with what I am saying but when I answer questions on here, I do it with experience and truth. I had a friend with a similar problem like yours. And her boyfriends mom wanted so much for her son to get back with their children's mother and she did everything should. Eventually he ended up doing just that, but it didn't last long because it was under pressure, confusion and duress and not love. I would tell him exactly how you feel. Tell him exactly what you just said on here and leave nothing out, especially your concerns and feelings. You deserve that. You deserve to speak your mind and tell him what you feel in your heart. If you honestly don't feel comforted by his answer or assured, then look deep inside yourself and think about how much more time you will invest in this relationship. I am sure you love him and it must really hurt you to read this but I don't want you to feel confused about what you are feeling. They are your feelings and no one should tell you different.
Good Luck
2006-12-03 13:43:06 · answer #1 · answered by megabites42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should standup and tell him how you are feeling. X's can be overwhelming and control taking using the kids to gain control. Yes, he is their for the kids but not for HER every need. You are in the relationship with him now and you are as important as every other party. If he is treating you like a door mat, respect yourself and walk away. When he realizes what he lost and if you are still available then think it over, if not his lose.
2006-12-03 21:50:15 · answer #2 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel this way then evaluate how long you have felt like this. If it is NOT something new, end it now. In this stage of a relationship, you sould normally feel on top of the world. If you feel like the way you describe, this guy is not the one for you. Sorry to say it's tme to move on with YOUR life.
2006-12-03 21:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by spag 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋