OK, I keep thinking about my ex-boyfriend & I feel so angry even though it's been over since 8 months ago. He was my first bf and kiss, & even though it never went past kissing (cuz I'm saving myself for marriage), I still got hurt. He made it seem like he could commit & he said all these sweet lies & he didn't mind about the no-sex thing. But after only a month he left saying "he's busy". I get angry sometimes. I know a few girls who are REALLy ugly, I mean dog-ugly & their bfs treat them so well & are committed. I'm not saying that I'm the best but lots of guys hit on me & say I'm beautiful, and yet I can't find a great guy. How can I not get angry, is there anything to help that?
I'm just really mad at the world today. One girl, the really ugly one said that her bf stayed up all night with her to help her w/ her essay & that he buys her gifts all the time. All I got was lies & heartache from my ex.
2006-12-03 13:17:01 · 11 answers · asked by sweet kisses 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe they want you for your beauty and hope to get some
im a guy and i can say, we're all assholes =)
2006-12-03 13:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
There are two answers to your situation.
1. Some guys act this way whether you did anything to deserve it or not. Whether or not it's fair, it's life. In time, you'll get used to it.
2. Even though he might have lied and treated you badly and unfairly, he's not the one giving you "heartache". You're the one giving yourself heartache. Turn your anger into something positive and don't let anyone else control how you feel. You take control of how you feel. The first step is to control your thinking, the rest will follow naturally. You're trying too hard to find the perfect guy. Let it go and don't worry about it. Just live life and have fun. Eventually you'll find a guy that you click with. :)
2006-12-03 21:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by jeff27a 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A couple of things. When I was very hurt from a relationship, like crying all the time, feeling very depressed and feeling like I would never, ever get over it, a friend asked me to think of something that really hurt me a year ago or a few months ago, and he asked me, does it hurt the same, and of course it didn't, because time does heal most wounds. A broken heart is just like a bad cut, you need to give it time to heal, and your heart will heal...eventually, hang in there. Guys can be self centred jerks sometimes...
And if you are sweet and not hard on the eyes =) then you will find another guy who will treat you well and you will find love again. Just hang in there. Lots of fish in the sea, just make sure that you find someone who will treat you like gold, like you deserve to be treated =).
Take care of your heart.
2006-12-03 21:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by jordan 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not a guy, but you still need to hear from girls!
Get over it! So he was your first boyfriend! First kiss. There WILL be more and better kisses! He made it seem like he could commit? Commit to what? You're teen-agers. You've got a life-time ahead of you. Years to find that truly special someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Stop getting angry. Stop being angry. You're expending a whole lot of engery on something that, in the big picture, doesn't matter.
I know. I've been there. Done that. But ya know. I'm married now to the best man in the world. I have 2 children.
My highschool sweetheart is also married with 2 children. I don't think that's he's lost any sleep over me, nor have I over him!
Get on with your life. You WILL find that special someone who cares the world for you and who WILL treat you like you want/deserve to be treated. Don't settle for less!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-03 21:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by beekiss 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
darlin, just keep looking. the right guy will show up. and don't turn this on yourself. he is the one with the problem, not you. i know too well how it feels to be mad at the world, happens to me all the time. but this is his problem. just consider yourself well rid of him. you seem to be trying to make this situation about you, and what may be wrong with you. it's not. it's the jerk of a boyfriend. my daughters went thru this same thing many times. they are now in their 20s, and both have great husbands. (thus speaks a 47 year old dad)
2006-12-03 21:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by chris r 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The reason Y ur friends get the better guys is because they have guys that judge them by there content of there character and not by how hott they r. guys that tend to go for hot girls are just caring about looks and physical things so my advice is to go for the more sensitive guys but not guys that r more sensitive than you and also try to go more for the shy guys . because they will definately respect you for saving yourself. kinda like the ones on beauty and the geek it will help alot more i promsie
2006-12-03 21:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Guys grow up soo much slower than gals do!
Don't let it get to you! You will have so many BF's in your future, you needn't worry!
As to the ugly gals ... maybe they aren't so ugly!
I have found many 'unattractive' gals quite attractive for a variety of reasons. Don't judge others by their looks alone!
IMHO
The Ol' Sasquatch Ã
2006-12-03 21:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by Ol' Sasquatch 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well its just that you have not found the right guy and i think thats great you are saving yourself you just have to be patient everyone gets angry when everyone has a companion and you dont just hang in there
2006-12-03 21:21:25 · answer #8 · answered by bell 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
the 'ugly' girls are more skeptical when it comes to guys because they know how they look and its like a natural 'hard to get' thing, and only guys that really care will get with those girls, for them, not thier looks, don't rely on your looks, you are only going to get hurt.
2006-12-03 21:27:29 · answer #9 · answered by ragewilted 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sorry sweetie, you should of just put out for him.
So whats your question?
2006-12-03 21:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋