My cousin has never liked me and i cant figure out why. I have never done anything to her. someone in the family said she's jealous. Whenever we have family get togethers she's always quick to point out if somethings wrong with my clothing,etc. like one yr. she said i had something on the back of my pants. i went to look and there was nothing there. then not too long ago i was wearing some green color changing polish on my toes and she said it looked like i had a fungus. ive never done anything for her to feel that way. i dont act better than her. i wear nice clothes but im not flashy about it. i think she is a very pretty girl herself. i cant figure it out. id like to have a better relationship with her. i dont know if shes jealous or if she just doesnt like me. shes older than me by 2 yrs. and we other cousins who are my age and me and my other cousins are always together at get togethers. i dont know if thats the reason. i didnt do it on purpose. what do you think?
2006-12-03 12:55:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This sounds just like my cousin and I. It has been like that as long as I can remember. We're both in our 30s now and it's still the same. Some people are just insecure in themselves and take it out on others.
When we were young she tried to push me down stairs, get me in trouble at every opportunity and once even used black permanent marker to add her own special touches to all the clothes in my closet at my birthday party.
I recently saw her again for the first time in about 6 years when my grandfather was dieing. My husband and I live paycheck to paycheck. She married money is a stay at home Mom in a great big house and has money to burn. Yet she still acted the same way towards me as she did when we were 10! In fact she dumped a can of soda into my suitcase while I was spending some of my last moments with my grandfather!
These types of people will never change. All I can say is just do what you can to be civil at family functions and otherwise don't worry about it anymore. She isn't worth being upset over.
2006-12-03 13:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by blacksun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's jealous of you - plain and simple. For some reason she thinks you're better than she is. Maybe it's because she doesn't feel so great about herself. Maybe it's because she sees stuff in you that she really admires. Maybe its a bit of both. She criticizes you in hopes that you will feel as bad about yourself as she feels about herself - it's called "leveling". The BEST thing you can do is to make her feel better about herself - even though that may be hard if she's been mean to you. Tell her you like her hair, tell her she's smart, whatever you can find good to say about her and to her. If you're playing with your other cousins, invite her to join you. Show her that you care about her and that she's OK when she's with you. This will do two things: 1) she'll most likely change her behavior once she realizes that you can and do make her feel better about herself, and 2) if she doesn't change, you will have proven to yourself that you have done all you can and if she still wants to be enemies, then the fault is on her. It's about being and doing your best and then counting on others around you to do the same. If they don't do their part, and you have done yours, guess who sleeps better at night?.
2006-12-03 21:12:48 · answer #2 · answered by willtradeformoney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry this cousin treats you this way. Maybe she is just jealous of you, maybe it is something else. Have you tried asking her why she treats you this way? Why she dosent seem to like you? She might surprise you with her answer. Or maybe she is even unaware of how she is acting. Try not to let her meanness get to you. I know it must hurt though, I have some family like that. But they way they treat me is so shallow, I have no desire to care why they do it or be there friends. But if I did, I would ask why they do it. But dont let her make you feel you have done anything wrong. Goodluck.
2006-12-03 21:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by BeckyKay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep she's jealous and spiteful. Forget it. Just wanting a relationship with a family member doesn't mean it good for you. take care of you by letting her go. And when she says something cruel to you just say...hmmmm. You haven't ignored her. Which would make her feel powerful and you haven't rewarded her by defending yourself or getting hurt. Hmmm can be a powerful friend.
2006-12-03 21:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people are just like that just go about what you do and ignore her she should grow up one day and get over it but if not she has missed out on a good cousin / freind
2006-12-03 20:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by headchef 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she hates you... wy dont u compliment her just once.. and she how she reacts.. well.. if she bites your right hand.. offer her your left.. lol (i just saw a movie on 'gandhi methods)
good luck!
2006-12-03 20:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by Rhyhaina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe that's it, she feels left out.
2006-12-03 20:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by Maji 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
shes a *****
2006-12-03 20:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by izzomann pothead4life 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋