Im in my mid 20's still living at home with my parents due to financial situation until i can save up and move my butt out.
Anyway, my parents simply do not like my boyfriend-24. I don't have enough space on here to type details, but in my eyes i love him and there is nothing wrong with him. Keep in mind my parents have had a problem with any guy i brought home, my last relationship of 3 years was ruined because of my parents. My Parents are too strict and very old fashioned italians.
anyway, the current guy im dating for about 1 year. In order to do things i want with him, I told my parents yesterday that we are no longer dating, but are going to remain friends. Well its not true-its just a cover up.Of course my parents jumped for joy , but were also pissed that im still gonna hang out to be friends. Meanwhile, i hate to to lie about this but its the only way i can have less stress and have normal relationship with my parents. Im waiting to move out to tell them that im with him
2006-12-03 12:41:07 · 8 answers · asked by hersheybar99 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are in your 20's? Grow up and get a back bone.
2006-12-03 12:44:14 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Looks like your parents dont want you to grow, they want you for themselves, they have a problem, and you are feeding into their problem. It is good for you to be honest, this way they will come to terms of accepting your independence and space. Not telling them until you save up is manipulation, and selfish. They have to cope with the fact that you are growing and will surely have to move on, Delaying to tell the truth will only delay their coping and growth. What ever is to happen now is being post poned. This way you are going to feel better for being honest.
2006-12-03 12:49:45 · answer #2 · answered by thachu5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, believe me u r not alone at all. u r twenty yrs old and in my opinon u should b allow to date the guy u like. and i know how parents act too. but keep in mind they can sometimes b right. i understand u hav ur life to live but please don't make that guy come between u and ur parents. i am so not tryin to tell u to leave ur bf here, but considers certain thing before u go act. good luck.
2006-12-03 12:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by sweet143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him you have to be honest to your parents. you can't let them live your life. also, do not lie to them about no longer dating. you have to confront them because eventually they will find out. i dated outside my race once and my parents did not know but then my mom asked why so and so calls so much (i didn't own a cell phone then) at home. i told her we are friends, but then when things got ugly between me and him, i couldn't tell my parents because they did not know i was seeing him. don't wait because what if they come visit and he is at your place? its easier to tell the truth to avoid anything bad happening later.
2006-12-03 12:47:49 · answer #4 · answered by kowalley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your not going to give up your relationship with him, the sooner you move out of your parent's house, the better. The situation will not any better. It is not good to lye so, tell them the truth when you move out.
2006-12-03 12:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by brooke992002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're in your 20's? Why are you still acting 12. If I were the guy I would dump you for a girl who isn't afraid to love who she loves.
2006-12-03 12:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if u really like this guy the tell ur parents but dont listen 2 em if u realli lubb h im
2006-12-03 12:44:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i know exactly how u feel...i have to do the same thing
2006-12-03 13:07:13 · answer #8 · answered by jusprettynsmart 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋