eventhough married im staying with my parents due to my husband's absence due to his job most of the time.most of the time im like the daughter here than a mother to my kids.its frustrating .my parents r aged cant leave them also.my kids r getting spoilt with their pampering.help.
2006-12-03 12:35:10 · 12 answers · asked by tina 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
1st of all, you have to love you. I read alot of not feeling important to YOU. If you love you, you don't care what other people think or say. My wife has the same issue. And although I try to encourage her, she has to do it for her. The phrase "Self-Esteem?" is exactly that, no one can kill your self esteem. I am a true believer in " NO ONE CAN STEAL MY JOY :) .Only you can let someone elses opinion affect you. Remember, its only THEIR opinion. Others feelings towards situations. Do not personalize their feelings about you. We are all in control of the way we feel. If we laugh, we do cause we want to, when we cry, we do cause we want to, if we feel sad, its because WE choose to. And when you dont like yourself, you look for acceptance from others, and when that comes to us in a negative way, we tend to believe it. I'm telling you forget what others say, you are in control of your emotions and life. Not having your husband there for support also is contributing to this, as your parents like all parents spoil our children to get back at us for putting them thru hell when we were kids :) lol ( I know I did). You'll be fine. Just stand firm with the children and as long as they know that you are in charge and not your parents, you'll be fine. Tell your husband to back it strong when he is in and let him know that it would really make life easeir on you :) Take Care and good luck. If you would like more encouragement, e-mail me at barrettebrown@YAHOO.COM. I too am married with 3 children 16, 5, and 1 and we lived with my parents for a year!!! So I understand. Barrett G-Bless
2006-12-03 13:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are staying with your parents, and your kids are taken care of by your parents, Some where deep down you are longing to find your individuality and that is not wrong, How would you feel to live on your own and have and do things your style, like parenting your own kids, I am sure this is what you are seeking to do just do it if you are confident enough. you husband is working and you should be able to afford to move and be on your own. This way when your husband returns both can have privacy and life as a family.
Even though you are married seems like there has not been any change to express your life. Go and do it this is your life, and you have every right to be happy. This will give a chance for you to grow and be more responsible. Good luck!
2006-12-03 20:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by thachu5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very positive. You're lying back watching the clouds just as you are watching the events in your life go by. Everything has clarity and definition, and there is variety as well. You're in a relaxed position indicating that you feel strong and confident about the way things are progressing. The sun feels good and colorful butterflies surround you. These are all the options and opportunities that you have right now, and they are plentiful. They can also signify the people in your life right now. Bright, energetic and beautiful, you are surrounded by positive energy from most every direction. This is a wonderful time for you where you are the one who's in charge of your life, and things are going extremely well. Seize some of those opportunities!
2006-12-04 04:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married, and can afford a place of your own, then it is time for you and your husband to be on your own, even if your husband is away for periods of time. That way you can be in charge of your children. Now see, you have let your parents take the range of your children, that is why they are still doing it. this is something that they have always done, because you have allowed them to take over. Now all of a sudden you see, that they are spoiling your children, and letting them get away with too much. What you have to do, is tell your parents. Tell them you want them to have a wholesome life, and the way they are parenting is not how it is done!
2006-12-03 20:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now this is their right to pamper grand kids all do it I will also do & even when you become grandparent you will also do the same & mind you no kids get spoiled by grannies love. Dont feel depressed for this reason just pass your time till your husband is back ,take care of your old parents & kids everthing will be OK after some time.
2006-12-04 08:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are in depression , do not think so much of the future ( what will happen , what should i do , why the things are as they are and so ....) dont get upset . when there is very less for you to do about the situations then leave them on fate as the time passes every thing will be ok . now you get frustated and a result of that you think of those things you should not , just relax and think of next minute not the next day.
2006-12-04 02:14:49 · answer #6 · answered by gunchu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better get out now!! Why are you not living in tour own apartment, this is what you should be doing. I feel until you get out from under your parents roof, you will continue to be depressed
2006-12-03 20:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should ask your husband to stay home or find a new job tht allows him to be with you because this is a time when all of you need him most
2006-12-04 16:49:03 · answer #8 · answered by Heera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want your children to treat you like a mother act like one.
2006-12-05 06:12:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all try to be happy all the time and try to keep engage urself.give sometimes to urself and in tht time do whatever u like ,if u like to read then must read some spiritual book like "the monk who sold his ferrari","alchemist" etc.
regarding ur kid try to engage them in their studies and extra-carricular .if they like to play outdoor game encourage them ,if they like to play any instrument then just get them it and send them for tution outside the home for carricular and extra carricular both.
2006-12-04 14:56:43 · answer #10 · answered by Ashish A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋