Like I had asked before I am getting married with my boyfriend. I hadn't told my parents about it and today while I was getting ready for work they asked for a family talk..(me19yrs, brother 16yrs, sister 12yrs.) and they announced that they were going to throw a big party for the wedding of their dreams next summer!!!! exactly when I was planned t marry!!!
2006-12-03 12:15:21 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Are your parents already married? If so, then what they are doing is considered a vow renewal, NOT a wedding. However, you should tell them you're planning on getting married soon, trust me on this one, parents (especially parents of girls) tend to get VERY upset if not told this fact about their children, and you don't want them to hear it from someone else. You and your fiance need to go to your parents, face to face, and break the news to them. Given your age, don't expect them to be overjoyed either, you're really too young to be getting married.
2006-12-03 14:39:22 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No I don't think this will ruin your parents wedding. If your parents like your boyfriend/fiancee then more than likely they will be happy for you 2 but if they don't necessarily approve of him or yall getting married then I see where there will be a problem. Don't stress about it and just tell them when you think the time is right. Try throwing out hints to see what they would say if you were to get married. Ask them little discrete questions like "How would you feel about a double wedding or How would you feel if I got married around the same time yall did", but say it in a joking manner and see what they say.
Congratulations and Good Luck.
2006-12-03 20:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by Ask Ashlynn!!!! 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would talk to my fiance about it maybe giving yourselves a little more time would be okay at least that way you will have more money and time to plan. I wouldn't personally want to marry near a family members wedding as I would want my mom's help as that is part of the fun.
2006-12-04 03:40:44 · answer #3 · answered by emmandal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's not like they knew. They didn't mean to plan a wedding the same weekend you had planned your unannounced one. Take a deep breath and tell them you had also planned to marry that summer and find out how it can all get accomplished.
Multiple weddings in a family during the same year is not uncommon.
2006-12-03 23:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Susie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Come on... there are three months in the summer. Pick a different month... maybe even go for a spring or fall wedding.
P.S. 19 is way too young of any age to get married at these days... you've got a long life ahead of you.
2006-12-03 21:38:38 · answer #5 · answered by mJc 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Na, i understand.
do what you feel.
would it really be better 4 you to tell them??
cause they won't change their date.
they got dibs on announcing an arranging it so...
you might just have to do it just after theirs...
an then when they find out about yours you could just blame the marriage urge on them and say that since you saw how happy they were an how wonderful it must be so you decided to marry your boyfriend in hopes of being like them....
that might or might not work!!!
good luck with whatever you decide!!
2006-12-04 01:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by Aaliyah Morales 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definately tell them you are planning a wedding. Sounds like they will have the whole family invited to their party...maybe you should move yours back a little bit. Fall weddings are very nice =)
2006-12-03 21:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now is probably a good time to tell them that you are planning on getting married, and you should discuss with them the date.. But obviously one of you will probably have to reschedule.
2006-12-03 20:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by Fluffii 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should tell them youre getting married. Alsi, maybe plan your wedding a couple of months before or after they have theirs, as not to interfere with theirs.
2006-12-03 20:18:50 · answer #9 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well, obviously you're grown-up enough to get married... but not to tell your family? Smacks of immaturity. You change the date, their wedding is more important, because of you keeping the secret. And don't suggest the double-wedding, despite what the lovely people are saying. Double-weddings RARELY please people, because every bride wants HER special day.
2006-12-03 21:17:49 · answer #10 · answered by shaclare 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋