im no talking about a crush or an attraction, im talkin about a feeling that comes from the heart, not the mind
2006-12-03 12:07:17 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there is an 8 yr difference and im a minor
2006-12-03 12:11:53 · update #1
Yes, it matters. I don't want my daughter's teacher falling in love with her, for example. Also, sorry, if you believe what the Bible says, then same-sex is wrong too.
2006-12-03 12:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Well, I would have to say that if two people are truly, truly 'in love', they have a long way to go in the relationship because being "in love" can often be mistaken as true love when they are really still in the "honeymoon" stage. When you truly love someone, there are certain elements and qualities that you both will feature, share and relate to. Sometimes age can make a difference and sex can too. It all depends upon the two people. In other words, if you are 20 and you think you love a 40 year old man - believe me, there are going to be some wide gaps and divisions in your conversations and your ability to relate. Much of your life was in the womb or heaven while he was already doing life on the earth. You have to have some things that are common to you in order for the relationship to have groundwork, a foundation. The 'good looks honey' can fade real quick when it's all surface. As you stated -love is a an emotion from the heart however, the 'reasoning' has to come from the mind - and the staying power is both a combination of heart and mind - soul and spirit if you really want to get technical. How do you older couples who have been married for 40 years manage to stay together - love? Perhaps. But more importantly, there has to be a level of respect, energy, compassion, friendship and much more that helps to drive 'the love'. Great question.
2006-12-03 12:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, age and sex really matter! TRULY!
"Love" is an emotion that comes from the heart and also involves the mind. The mind says, "I love", the emotion follows with "yes, I love". In a week/mo/year or so...after certain situations, certain disagreements, certain miscalculations, the mind may say, "I have made a mistake!" or "I have outgrown this person", or "I have evolved"! The emotion will be following close behind Mr. Mind and say, "Yes, I agree".
Never base "love" on your emotional feeling. Always, consider the age/sex/cultural differences/height/weight/religion. Based upon "fact", one can consider, in the big picture, this will not work for me. Though I am in "attraction" now, the end result is "distraction", "disharmony", pain, and suffering.
I will therefore base my decision on good judgment though I would never take good judgment without a "smidgen" of emotion, TRULY!
Added details: Rarely does a child have good judgement in such matters. Whoever the 8 year difference is, could be in big trouble. It may be a relationship that is unlawful.
2006-12-03 12:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by lindakflowers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are underage, it is wrong. Does the object of your affection know your feelings? Does he/she know your true age? If so then that person is committing a crime if there is sex involved & could go to jail for a very long time. If he/she doesn't know your age then you have been lying to that person. Lies have a way of catching up with you so be very carefull. Make sure that everyone is on the same page before you carry this any further.
2006-12-03 12:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by mazell41 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think age ore sex really matter. If you love someone nothing should stand in your way. Your heart always knows. You just get that feeling like you cant breath when that person walks into a room and your heart beats so fast. If you love them let it happen nothing should stand in the way of love.
2006-12-03 12:12:36 · answer #5 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say NO!! And it shouldn't matter unless you are under age then it depends if you really want to be with this person you can wait till you are of legal age. It should be your choice not society tell you that you should date with in your race or religion. If you have true feelings for someone you can't really help what your heart is say to you. And if your worried about what your family will say or act If they really want to to be happy they will get over it in time if ti is true love.I say go for it you only live once and you should be happy. Good Luck and God Bless
2006-12-03 12:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by De_BlueEyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if it's a 14 year old girl, and a 20 year old guy, it matters a lot, legally, now if one is 21 and the other 27, it's OK, same years a part,but not illegal or immoral, need specific age, and sex to say what is right or wrong, please rewrite your question with more details to get a fair answer.
2006-12-03 12:13:32 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think it matters only if your not over 18, If your over 18 I don't think it matters because you are an adult if you can fight for my country than date whoever you want. If you are under 18 then yes because I don't think you have a right to date someone much older I don't know if you have the understanding of what it means to love yet..
2006-12-03 12:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by parentsofbadmeandt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make sure you truly love then. I have found love at a young age and I knew it was love. So I dont thing that age really matters. But you truly have to know that you are in love and not just thinking you are becuase it comes from the heart. you have to make sure that you are truly comfotable and truct them 100% before you have sex with anybody.
2006-12-03 12:10:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No age/sex difference doesn't matter as long as you love one another. I've friends whose husbands are 20 years older and they're still happily married :)
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2006-12-03 12:12:37 · answer #10 · answered by sensualsophia.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, before I thought that age mattered but now I really don't. My boyfriend is younger than me , we've been together for awhile and we truly love each other. So yeah, it all depends on how your heart feels about that person and not your brain
2006-12-03 12:11:21 · answer #11 · answered by nataliya2107 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋