She lives a few houses away but we lead seperate lives. She's normally off at college but we've talked a bit online and seem to have a lot in common. Same sense of humor, and she seemed to express vague interest earlier on. (VERY subtle). And she's GORGEOUS. We haven't seen each other too often in person... almost rarely. And I believe her mom even tried at least introducing us at one point. The point is how can I get her to hang out with me on neutral ground since we're both reasonably busy and she's normally off at school. I really need WOMEN's opinion on what they'd like from a guy in this situation because I don't wanna come off as too forward or "creepy". The real question is, how can a guy be assertive given the specific situation without scaring her away. Thanks.
2006-12-03 11:49:34 · 4 answers · asked by blah_blah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just go for it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-03 11:53:03 · answer #1 · answered by ahkiya :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you want to hear from a female's point of view.. but I just had to give my 5 cents for this question..
Busy as in personal lives is one thing, getting her out with you on neutral ground is another issue to handle. So you must understand that you actually already have the ability to ask her out.
Just think about it, is there any events which are "neutral" enough which gives you an excuse to ask her to tag along? Is there something which you can say , "Hey, we are having a block party? Wanna come along?" or "Hey, you wanna join in our Christmas fun?"
Seize chances from season holidays like Christmas (Which is coming), or maybe New Year or possibly other season holidays.
Remember, asking her out on this neutral grounds means you have to approach her as a neutral person, a person who is willing to be a good or even best friend. It is only once you two are comfortable with each other, then you may make your move and ask her the infamous question. THat you have been waiting to ask.
and IF you do fail, hey! You got at least her to keep as a close friend.
Cheers!
2006-12-03 20:01:07 · answer #2 · answered by THE ONE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep talking to her online. Do everything in a process. Talk to her online, transfer it to talking over the phone (keep the convos short and gradually build conversations over time), meet on neutral ground and take it from there.
Know your audience first. Don't ever attack or come off too needy (that's the purpose of not talking long over the phone). It takes time for both people. Make sure you know what you want first before going into your territory. Sometimes vaugeness is a GREAT defense mechanism to weed out guys who only want her for her body and not for her. Especially if she's as gorgeous as you say she is and been hurt before.
This is what I'd want a guy to do to me. Good luck!
2006-12-03 19:57:47 · answer #3 · answered by cute_chocolate_buggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sense you talk to her on line maybe casually invite her somewhere. Like if there is a type of food that she really like then tell her you know a place that you know she will love and maybe you and her should go there some time. Or tell her your going o this place on (day) and that she could come.
2006-12-03 19:54:49 · answer #4 · answered by meme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋