ok so i need help and alot of it i have been dating my girlfriend for a year and 3 months but lately she has been doing some weird stuff she keeps changing her mind about weather she wants to sleep with me or not we have slept together but now she doesnt want to and this is hard to take and all i can think of is other girls who wont do this and i dont want other girls but at the same time i do and i just dont know what to do anymore i dont want to cheat on her i have never cheated in my life but lately i have been thinking about it and i hate it plz someone help why is my gf acting like she is and how am i suposed to react to it
2006-12-03 11:39:11 · 15 answers · asked by you dont know me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think she is a little confused. i think she wants to but i also think that when she does she feels its wrong. i think she loves you more than anythingand would do anything for you to make you happy. i think you should talk it out with her ever little detail about how you feel and why. i also think you should let her express herself and give her another chance. i know she loves you and wants to be with you. and i know she never knew that what she was doing was chasing you off and making you want to cheat on her or have another girl. she would never want that to happen. she has given you her whole heart and i bet if you guys would just talk it out - talk everything out - you could work it out. i know you love her more than anything and would not want to hurt her and i know she loves you morethan anyting and would not wnat to hurt you. i also think that if you were to do anything to harm yourself she would never ever forgive herself for it. i know all she wants is for you to be happy. give her one more shot and if it doesnt work then i would say you deserve better and should leave her. no one deserves to be treated the way she has treated you and i bet she is sorry. just talk to her. i know she loves you!
2006-12-03 13:08:33 · answer #1 · answered by Babydoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is never the answer. You need to ask her what is going on. Nicely. Tell her you are worried about her and about your relationship because she changes her mind. Ask her why she has second thoughts and if there is anything you can do to help her feel better. Stop being so immature and self-centered and things should work out.
Oh and you can sleep with a person any numbers of times and then decide you would rather not. She is not obligated to put out.
2006-12-03 19:42:39 · answer #2 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i was in the exact same situation not so long ago_ after being extremely intimate for a long time, my gf all of a sudden didn't want to anymore_ i tried my best to ask her what is wrong, she just kept saying, its wrong we shudnt do it and all that_ but obviously, you know how it feels, you just want a reason why she's acting that way_ to make the long story short, i broke up with her and now i am with another girl_ i am the happiest guy on the planet right now b/c for some reason, one meaningful kiss from my current gf means hell of a lot more than a whole night of fooling around w/ my ex...
so talk to her and ask her why she's acting the way she is_ give her some time and if she still doesnt give u an answer, i suggest u break up with her_ in the long run, that can only help you_
2006-12-03 19:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by Arun M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all you need to talk to her and tell her how you are feeling minus the cheating part. Tell her that you feel like she does not want to be with you anymore and you don't know what to do. As far as how to react just go with it. Ask yourself does your whole relationship revolve around sex, can you live without her and how would you feel if you heart if you cheated on her. Just try to get to know her more and do things that neither of you have done before together.
2006-12-03 19:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by meme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well darling,,your best bet is to sit her down and talk to her about this,,i know that its been a long time dating someone but you know what, maybe she is just starting to feel like she doesn't want ot be there or not...doing something really romantic for her..like a nice romantic candlelight dinner or something,,but you guys need to talk before you do cheat, cuase that's not way to end a relationship. and if you are thinking about the whole cheating aspect them maybe it is time for you to end the relatinoship.But if you think that yuo can work threw this little problem then fight for her..
GOOD LUCK
2006-12-03 19:45:37 · answer #5 · answered by Newfie_Girl_13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is testing you to see if you'll break up with her if she doesn't have sex with you. Sometimes girls wonder whether their man is in it for sex or not and they have to find out! Hang in there but don't cheat on her! You have been dating her for a while so it's time to decide if you want to keep going or not, but chances are that if you're thinking about others then you probably don't LOVE her.
2006-12-03 20:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by Brandi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's good to know that you haven't cheated before. but i think you should remain loyal and not start cheating, especially after a year!
i dno't really know why she's doing this. but i believe you should talk to her about this. maybe something is really wrong. sometimes if something is wrong in her family, with friends, or just wring with her, she won't really want anything to intimate. don't cheat on her, that'd be horrible to do. if she won't do it with you and another girl will that's no reason to cheat *or a real a**holey reason to cheat*
2006-12-03 19:45:20 · answer #7 · answered by santaz_lil_slacker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u shouldnt force ur gf to sleep with you, its obvious that she is scared and nervous, and she doesnt want to tell you this beacsue she is afraid that you will break up with her if she says no, i think that you should talk to her about it, and if u really love her, u will not force her, but if u arents satisfied, then maybe u should rethink ur relationship...Good Luck!!
2006-12-03 19:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is not treating you the way you deserve to be treated. You need to get over her and find someone else that will respect you and not lead you on. Good Luck.
2006-12-03 19:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by Gayle 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
just if u dont think she loves u like she used to break up w/her! u want to find the perfect match dont u!
2006-12-03 19:42:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋