I'll try to summarize as much as possible. I've been with the same boy for 3 years, since we were 17. Last year, he became a paraplegic in a car accident (paralyzed from the abdomen down), and since them, I do not want to be with him. I can't stop hurting him emotionally and say things that just shred him to pieces. He is still so in love with me, so I don't know why i can't stop being such a ***** to him. Today he asked for a glass of water and I dumped it on his head and shouted that I'm not his damn slave and he started to cry. I'm freaked out because I used to love him before his accident. Why can't I stop hurting him???
2006-12-03 11:34:37 · 12 answers · asked by Natalie s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow your really mean. Go to some anger management place, that is seriously the meanist thing ever. Isn't it already bad enough that he's paralyzed, but he has to face emotional issues too?
2006-12-03 11:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by Shortii. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats so sad. YOur probably just emotionally stressed. Maybe you should take a little break for awhile. Get someone to help out with him and you need to go somewhere by yourself so you have time to think things threw. If you dont want to be with him anymore the right thing to do is to just tell him that its not him and it has nothing to do with how things are with him being paralyzed that your just changing and you think it would be best for both of you to take a break. I think he will understand. Take a breather girl i know how stressful all that must be. GOOD LUCK
2006-12-03 11:43:30 · answer #2 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was the accident his fault? If so then I guess because you did care for him and he is the cause of this condition you just feel the need to punish him because he hurt both of you with his actions. Just search your feelings and maybe talk to a family member or a professional if you can.
2006-12-03 11:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by Hendo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop hurting him cause you do not love him and you are forcing yourself to stay with him. So you are lashing out at him, perhaps in hopes of him breaking off with you. You are already hurting his feelings, you are not saving his feelings by staying with him, so do the right thing and break up with him. You will feel better and soon he will too.
2006-12-03 11:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by Angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can think of is just tell him that seeing him in pain like this is killing u and that why your acting the way u r. Not that its right. B/c he can't help it but maybe u two arn't meant for each other.
2006-12-03 11:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by Shaynee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 19:25:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you need to get some professional help b/c what u did right there is just plain wrong_ maybe he will be better off without you so just break up_ from what you said, sounds like you dont care about him now anyways_ so move on_
2006-12-03 11:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by Arun M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself this question if he wasnt a paraplegic would still like him. because if u say yes then u are shallow
2006-12-03 11:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your love is probably shallow and physical. Now that he lost his good looks and his ability top walk you are not interested anymore.
2006-12-03 11:37:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you're a heartless self-centered egotistical pompous jackass!
2006-12-03 11:43:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋