is this so wong to do in a relationship??????/?

Question

ok im in a relationship and last night i went over to my friends who is a guys house and i went at about 12 am n i came home at about 2 am i told my boyfriend about it today and he got mad at me for it i told him i wouldnt go next if it upsets him this much ... so is this a reason he should be mad ?and how long is he going to be mad? and what can i do to make it up to him?

nothing happened at my friends house we were just talking abuout something that happened that day that was extremly important to me and i had called my boyfriend that night to talk to him about the problem but he said he would call me back and he didnt so i went over to my friends house

Answer 1

the world seems to be full of possessive men who want to control their women. Dump him.

Answer 2

You didn't do anything wrong - you were just hanging out with your friend. But, your boyfriend got mad because you were at a man's house late at night (and many men think that the only reason a woman would be at a man's house after midnight would be for sex).

Tell your man that you're sorry for hurting his feelings - but remind him that he's got to understand that you've got male freinds and reassure him that you would NEVER ever sleep with one of your male friends.

Be forwarned - a lot of men are incredibly insecure about their girlfriends having male friends (most men assume that the only reason a man would have a woman friend is because he's trying to sleep with her!)

BTW is your male friend actually interested in you as a woman? you might not realize it, but your male friend might actually like you (maybe your boyfriend has picked up on the signals that you missed!)

Answer 3

Ok, i'm in a relationship and have for the past yr and a half, but few months into my realtionship your problem sounded bit like mine. I use to have a friend that took me for motor bike rides (guy friend & same bike) and my bf was fine until one day he told me he didn't want me goin on these rides no more. i use to go at night as well. I guess he didn't want me going because that was little bit much to be doin with another guy and so i listen to my bf because i thought that was reasonable what he had asked me to do. My bf was happy and so was i to make him happy, HOWEVER, as long as there is a compromise in a relationship and ur bf is not askin u to stop bein frnds wit ur frnds its nice to listen to him and vice versa. it will make u guys stronger, but if he is too controling about thisngs like that than u need to let him know from the beginning that you will not give up ur life jst to be wit him. There's plenty of guys out there don't worry. I think goin out wit ur guy frnd that late and coming home 2am and NOT tellin ur bf before u go is something i could see any gf get angry about, so maybe ask him if it is ok if u c ur frnds at other times of the day u know? Communicate with each other but be strong. He won't be angry for too long but show him that you understand y he is angry and try and work out a solution that will be beneficial to BOTH OF U!
Please let me know what you think!!!
xxx

Answer 4

Switch it around would you want your boyfriend around any females place from 12am to 2am.. There is the right time to be there and the wrong time. If it was a do or die situation and this friend really needed your help I think he should be okay but for you to just go for a visit...I think you need to respect his reason for being angry and you did the right thing in letting him know it won't happen again. Friends are friends but late evening rendezvous sound like trouble for your relationship.

Answer 5

I can see why your guys mad at you you don,t go to your guy friends house that late during the day is o k to hang out but theres just something about going over there that late just is,nt cool I think you need to apologize and ask him what he thinks would be the o k time for you to hang out with your guy friend

Answer 6

your b/f does have a reason to be a bit mad, think how you would feel if he went to a girls house until 2am? just give him time and he'll get over it, but next time i think you should tell him where your going and if he doesn't like then maybe you could make some sort of a compromise.

Answer 7

Michelle L, no you are verry wrong. In his mind, you could have been doing anything there. When all the possibilities go through his mind, no doubt he'll be more than a little pissed. My standards are high, I have much self respect and dignity ( I wouldn't say this publicly, but...), so I would leave you before you stabbed me in the back one more time. Sry, it's the truth. Gotta be trustworthy in this kinda sh*t.

Answer 8

Would you like it if he went to a girls house for 2 hours from 12-2am and told you about it the next day?

Answer 9

Dont know if your BF knows ur friend or not or if you ever had a relationship or anything with friend. LEts say, regardless of ur answers, that your man was at some girls house in the middle of the night for a few hours. Would you be upset? He may trust you, but he doesnt trust your friend.

Answer 10

well think of it this way, if your bf would of gone to a friends house which happens to be a girl at 12 am and spends two hours there and youd find out about it..wouldnt you be mad also..? what exactly would you think hed be doing at girls house at that time ? with the exception of family..I dont think he overreacted,, i wouldnt have minded if it was earlier that youd gone but so late ? feel me..

Answer 11

yes a guy is obviously gonna get jealous at that, do u even have to assk? every guy that cares about their girl is protective like that and is gonna be like 'what the hell went down at this guy's house' EVERY GUY i say! just be like you have to trust me and he'll get over it once u talk it out but then if u keep doing it it'll be a reoccuring issue.. one of my friends has this problem cause shes friends with too many gys