Where's the chemistry? (please answer!)?

Question

Is it worth it to even try to work on it--or should it chemistry just naturally be present? Can chemistry be created?

If you want to know the background, read on:

My boyfriend and I have been dating a year, and the more time goes on the more frustrated I become with our one complete disconnect. It's like we speak two completely different languages--I'm tactile, he's verbal. He'll compliment me profusely on my beauty and other aspects, but I don't believe them if actions do not follow--it is not uncommon for us to go weeks without even kissing each other. Conversely, he's confused why I am so physical--and often teases me because of it. I do feel shallow for being so frustrated, but it's becoming undeniable that chemistry is very important to me. There's been great days, little glimses of potential, that make me hope there's a chance--but those days seem so insignificant compared to a year. We've never even had a fight, which I would love just as a revelation of passion!

Answer 1

HAHA, well, it seems like there is no chemistry is that relationship, you wouldn't feel like that if the chemistry was there, you should feel like the two of you can comunicate, and understand each other, and also, common do you know what your missing, I can't beleive you could go weeks without kissing each other, that ain't right. I really think you gatta move on, and enjoy all the plessures of being in a good relation and with somebody who can connect with you the way you want and deseve.

Answer 2

good question. sounds like you're looking for more excitement and that things got boring. how about trying to "spice things up" a bit? if you feel that you've done enough to make things more exciting and he's still unreceptive, then I say start thinking about moving on. life's too short.

Answer 3

Chemistry is either there or its not. You gave it year and its not getting better, than why be unhappy with someone who just aint doing "it" for you.