Okay I loved my now ex and I know he at least had some fo the same feelings for me. I could tell a million stories that show theae romantic and sweet moments that would make most people cry and acctually already have, we'll call him bunny. I also have a best friend, we'll call her kitten. Well the problem with bunny was he was 20 and I was 25 at the time, kitten is my age. I started hanging out with kitten a lot and since I was not aloud to see bunny because of my parents she would help me set up times that we could all hang out with the addition of his friend, we'll call him pinecone. This worked out for a while but Bunny and Kitten started hanging out more and more w/o me and one night they were hanging out and when they were saying good-bye she lingered looking at him and he kissed her. I was devistated and we broke up. He has no idea that I know about the iccident. I love him so much and I'm begining to hate kitten for how much she hurt me. Am I in the wrong, and what should I do?
2006-12-03 11:18:12 · 15 answers · asked by Penguin_girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ouch...sorry, i have no idea.
2006-12-03 11:20:33 · answer #1 · answered by Shortii. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are in the wrong. You were still with bunny at that time, and kitten went ahead and flirted with him. Bunny is not supposed to kiss any other girl when he is already with someone. That's cheating!!
But probably you and bunny did not have enough time to spend together, and that could lead to some of the feelings he had for you to fade away. Also, as he was hanging out with kitten a lot more than he was with you, that could've brought them closer together.
But you should've told bunny the reason you broke up with him instead of hiding the fact that you knew what happened from him.
2006-12-03 11:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be honest to kitten, but at the same time very calm and show that this really hurts a lot to you... and also try to be honest to bunny, also by being calm at the same time... these two things will make the near future more clear, it will make you see the possibilities. The only thing you can do then, is try to convince them once for wat you realy want, but not twice. After that, two possibilities:
-it can turn out positive and bunny can turn into the old bunny and you both try to accept what happened and go on together, but, hope about it, but don't beleve it yet,
-if this turns out negative, you should try to accept it. And, try still to be in love with the person that bunny was before all this, but realize that that bunny doesn't exist anymore. Try to make that old bunny a part of your own. That will give you a new part in your life and personality, and you can go on and get new things in your life, meeting more people, and talking about these things... I think this all can make you stronger... and turn you into a person that can hold on with a lot of people and to be loved by a lot of people, and that's important I think...
I wish you the best about all this in near and far future...
2006-12-03 11:31:37 · answer #3 · answered by RHCPquestion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first, you are too old to be dating a guy that is only 20. Guys mature slower than girls so intellictualy he is about on the level you were at 15. Guys that age are more concerned with nailing as many chicks as they can, not fidelity or monogomy.
Second, your friend is obviously a skank. She weaseled her way into his sights to beckstab you. She knows she NEVER should have went out with your man WITHOUT you! Maybe she is jealous and triyng to porve that she is as hot as you. I am 27 and have learned to never trust any female around your guy... they will all throw a friendship out the window to get the guy they want.
You should let the two of them have each other, and never call them again. Act like it doesnt hurt you and find yourself an new guy to rebound with. It eases the pain and humiliation. Screw them both, and just keep wishing they will both get a raging case of Herpo-Syphillitis!!!!
Oh yeah, and go get yourself a hot new outfit. Shopping always helps.
2006-12-03 11:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd hate that ***** kitten 2 but remember that friendship between two girls is better than a guy cuz gurls are likely to stick around more than guys ever will.
in someway if its ya friend who told you,thats good but she might have been the one who kissed first..who knows...
on the other hand, if the guy kissed her,it's nice that u ditched his cheating and betraying ***.
you are nowhere in wrong,you still love your guy,he did you wrong and he just might do it again.,..
its upto you now... you..
2006-12-03 11:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by gabi c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would be angry at myself. You are a 25 yo & still sneeking around because of your PARENTS!?
It's time to grow up, get out on your own, & date some men for a change.
2006-12-03 11:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you cant trust kitten she basicly stabed you in the back.
Second, bunny is no good either so tell him, " Tell him your s@#t is in the box to the left"
2006-12-03 11:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by SOLO KING 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on hunnie. They are completely callous to your feelings, especially since they went behind your back. I would just end things quietly, and try not to cause too much drama, because you don't need that.
2006-12-03 11:23:03 · answer #8 · answered by Cerrah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must move on. No matter how bad the situation
2006-12-03 11:23:36 · answer #9 · answered by Sharon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you r not in the wrong ur ex is, I'd go up and tell him that you know that he kissed her.
2006-12-03 11:22:17 · answer #10 · answered by Out of Reach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH NO!! why does she have to be so mean along with your boy friend I mean X!!
2006-12-03 11:24:27 · answer #11 · answered by Female 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋