Why do i not know wot to say to girls in a club??

Question

How should a guy approach a girl in a club these days? whats the right sort of stuff to say to open a conversation nowadays ?

Answer 1

Thomas, honesty is always the best policy! Tell her you like her and ask her about herself. I don't go clubing anymore, and have actually never been chatted up, but if I did and I was to be chatted up, then I would like someone who could look me in the eye and make a connection.

The eyes are the window to the soul you know, look into them and feel her running through you. You will score, best of luck.

Answer 2

Short answer: Guys should not approach girls in clubs. The whole thing is about marketing sex and selling alcohol. I gave up on the bar scene years ago. I developed a knack to get into relationships with alcoholics. But if you absolutely must learn the hard way, try: Hi, how are you? It's as good as anything - lines look stupid anyway.
Otherwise, what's wrong with coffee shops? People are more sober. You can hear what the other person has to say and there's a chance it might lead to an actual relationship.

Answer 3

I believe that the answer to the first question, about not knowing what to say. That would be because of insecurity on your part. You have to feel, and display a positive attitude when approaching anyone in life. If you feel insecure, it will show through and detour anyone, not just women or men that you are trying to date. You first should feel out the crowd. See who came with who, who is sitting alone, and try to notice who is looking around the most. The ones that are always looking around are the ones that are looking for something, or someone. If you notice someone in a club just sitting and looking around you can wait a few minutes, WITHOUT STARING at them, check them out to see what they do. If they came alone, or most likely with ther girlfriends you can wait for a nice song to come on and you may want to ask them to dance. If you can`t dance very well, ask them if you can buy them a drink. But NEVER talk too much about yourself, or any other women unles they ask. What makes a good conversationalist is a good listener. Ask her questions about herself. Do not ask too many personal questions. If you are allowed to sit with her and talk. Compliment her alot and smile. Do not continue to look around for other women. Make her think that she is the only girl there. Give her your full attention until you see if she is right for you or not. If you feel that she is, and she really likes you as well, do ALL that you can to keep her happy. But allow her room to do things on her own. Do not try to run or control her. Stand by her side, not in front of, or behind her. Good luck in your venture.

Answer 4

The problem is that you are anticipating the girl's response. You're trying to come up with a playbook for human interaction. Try a little honesty. If you notice a girl, go up and tell her the reason why you noticed her. Introduce yourself and ask about her name. Ask her if you can continue the conversation and keep it light. Let the human nature element of getting to know someone take it course. Instead of hating the process of being awkward, understand its a natural thing and learn to enjoy getting to know people. The biggest sign of you being charming, during a naturl conversation, if you can make her laugh naturally without trying to hard...your 75% of the way there.

Answer 5

You could always ask her to dance with you. I don't mean grinding or something like that (that will probably turn her off) but if you know any partner dances like swing dancing or salsa, you can invite her to dance with you. You can also just dance together if you don't know organized partner dances; just be sort of goofy and have fun together. That'll probably open her up to conversation.

Just as an FYI, though, a club is probably not the best place to meet women. Many women will be suspicious to you because lots of shady guys try to pick up women in clubs.

Answer 6

Quite honestly, as much as I hate to say it, but women are worse then men now today. I have met way too many women at bars/clubs and none of them were anything to write home about. Go to the library or college, go to Target or the mall. If you really want to talk with her and not just get her to turn around, then introduce yourself, buy her a drink and ask her to go t oa more quiet spot at the club to talk. She'll probably be with her girlfriends or some other people, so you have to work with what you have. Keep her friends talking too. Ask questions, joke around, be yourself and have fun. Don't be all liquored up cuz thats the only way you think you can get the courage to speak. Once you say hello, you have broken the ice. Sorry to bother you, Excuse me, how you doin, hey, my name is....Not that hard.

Answer 7

You have a hard time finding something to say because you're putting everything in that one first sentence.

Relax a little a just say hi. Ask her a question as though it's just a question and not the meaning of life.

You'll do fine if you don't put so much pressure on yourself.

Answer 8

Start with a joke

There was chicken and a cat walkng across the bridge. The cat falls in and the chicken starts laughing.

The moral of the story is where ever there is a wet ***** there is a happy ****.

So babe... how bout it.

Second thoughts don't do that lol

Answer 9

Just nerves mate, the sooner you get over them the better...
Like anything in life, do it a few times starts to come natural.. out of 5 knock backs you'll get one. Just understanding a knockback isn't the end of the world, the gurl is most probably just as shy as you, i don't usually go for the best looking ones but their mates, whom usually stand there all night watching bloke after bloke go up to their mate and chat. If they say no thanks! Then just kindly say, ok, i just thought id ask as i didn't want to go home wishing i hadn't asked someone who is so very pretty/attractive. They usually blush and sometimes feel bad and occasionally say "ok then, i will" your in! :)
But prior to going up, maybe after a couple drinks to build a bit of dutch courage up but as long as you don't stink of booze and fags always take chewing gum with you preferably hubba bubba strawberry or tropical fruit... personally have best luck with them and its true lol
I usually think of the first line and count to 3 and just walk towards them and no going back...dont steam up to them, glide with confidence thinking youcouldhav eany bird you wanted if you tried, walk up with a smile say hi, get you coat youv'e pulled.. NO lol say
1:Hi, i had to come and ask you if you would have a drink with me, , so...would you like a one *smile*?
questions u can ask but try to let her speak more and crack little jokes i mean be jovial, who are you here with? my mates, what is it someones birthday or just a girls night out? i love your dress, not that i wear dresses of course just relax chill and have fun because at the end of the day thats the reason you are both there,
good luck and remember think of line, then coun to 3 and just go dont stop unless her boyfriend puts his arm round her or something LOL

Answer 10

Start with hello, my name is (insert name) and you are?

Then bust on her, make the situation un akward, you'll impress her more if you dont try to impress her and are just comfortable in the situation. If you act nervous she'll catch on right away and shut you down.