What is the most nicest ,gentlest, and kindest way to tell someone you want to breakup with them ?

Question

I am with my partner for 3 years and now, I think i may have feelings for someone else so before i officially go on a date or kiss this other person(thus cheating) I want to broke up with my partner first. This is a very serious posting so idiots with smart answers...thanks but no thanks. What setting is right, how do i even fix my lips to begin?

Answer 1

i think you should tell her that you like her alot but as a friend and tlel her that you till want to hang out but only as a friend and tell her you dont want to hurt her but you think you have feelings for someone else and you didnt think it would be right to date someone but you liked someone else more...who knows maybe she agrees

Answer 2

Is the other person worth 3 years of your invested time or is it just lust. Consider the consequences if you break up and realize the new person is not for you and that you really love the current partner. What do you do then? If you are not truly happy and wish to seek fulfillment elsewhere, it IS respectful that you are breaking it off with your partner rather than cheating in this day and age. There is no best time or most appropriate manner especially nearing the holidays. Be truthful in the good times that you had and how much you have grown as a person because of them. You may have grown too much and need to move on as people change over time and may not be compatible any longer. You obviously still care and respect your partner to try to let them down gently and they will be appreciative of that eventually. Summarize the best points in the relationship and let them walk away with their pride. DO NOT talk about the little fights and such that got you to this point. Let them save face and walk away knowing they did their best. You will feel much better afterwards and it is nice to compliment someone. I wish you luck and hope things go smoothly. Take your time jumping into the next relationship though only because they may fear that you can do it to them too if you move too quickly.

Answer 3

I commend you for ending it first with your current partner.

I'm sorry but I can't even begin to know how to help you break it to your partner. I've always been on the other side of this scenerio. I can tell you that I was heartbroken, but I lived.

I can see you will do it in a very kind and gentle way. Leave them feeling whole and deserving of the best in life k?

I don't envy what you have to do but, life is too short not to be happy.

All the best to you

Answer 4

This really stinks to say, but I don't think there IS such a way! However you say it, the partner is going to be stunned, hurt and feel like crap! All you can do is try to be there and not push your other relationship until you're sure your "ex-to-be" is "out of the woods" (as in, not going to anything rash).

I've been where you are and there's no easy way out (as far as I could tell!).

Answer 5

Whatever you tell her be sure to do it kindly and in person, no email, no text message and for goodness sake NOT a letter...not a telephone call or taking them out to dinner first is not a good idea.

I would just tell her the truth..The truth shall set you free...and honesty is always the best policy. Just tell her what is in your heart.

I respect you for wanting to part before doing something that may hurt her. That is really cool.

Good luck

Answer 6

Be honest, tell them you care about them but you don't think there is long term potential. Do it when you are not angry or arguing about something. Just ask them to sit down so you can talk. If they freak out and start acting crazy, just stay calm and when you think they won't do anything to hurt you, themself, or someone else leave. The next day tell them you need to get your things or return their things, just break it off fast. Don't drag it over weeks and make them think you still want them.

Answer 7

well at least you have enough brains to end it before going with someone else. just be honest.....tell things just arent like they were and that you think it best if you parted on a friendly basis be as nice and kind as you can because 3 years is a while to be with someone. good luck

Answer 8

Write her a letter Jerry, she is not going to take it well unless you guys have been having problems. There is no easy way...lets face it, its easier on them if we give them a reason to break up with us...thus the cheating. You are honorable for not doing that, just write it out and let her know that she isn't the one for you and you don't want to waste her time anymore, you've met someone else whom you wish to know better.

Good luck.

Answer 9

the nices way is 2 say *weve been toghther 4 a really long time but i think we need a little break i will always love u but i need space 4 now* dat is the easyiest way lol we if u have anymore question email me cuz im here!! lol okie byes

Answer 10

first tell them how much fun you 2 had together than tell her its time to move on and i have to breack up with you and im really sorry but life it not always going to be perfect so once in a while its time to move on and break up if u have too. Than tell her about the good stuff again and hopefuly she will understand and move on with you but if you breack her heart its just time to move on. Life itsnt always perfect theirs always postives and nagatives up and down good vs evil. Never know maybe she also wants to breack up with you people say their is no way its impossable. inpossable comes possable one way or another my gf brock up with me i was hert but I also understand you and she with have alot more dates waiting on the path for you somethimes you take a path and realize its not the right path so what do you do you turn around and head back to go to the right path. After one door opens and door closes after a door closes another door opens life isnt perfect one way or another. Put try to be postive and not negative. More postive the better your life will be and if your nagtive, negtive things will happen. So like i said tell her in a nice way not a mean harsh way than she will really get hert. But she will be hert onway in another. Like whan you fall you fill fine but deep down inside you hert yourself buy killing skin or vessels brain cells. But you always got more!