ok so this guy and me..we r like sexualy involved..we had sex and everything..but he is like 28 yrs and at a stage of marriage..and being indian..his parents r looking for a girl for him...but he is constantly keeping contact with me and i know if we keep meeting we will continue to have sex...(he lives in NY and i am in texas)..anyways i think he lieks me also..bcos he said hes thinkin to have a "long term" relationship with me..does this mean he is thinkin to marry me? and also my MAIN QUESTION is this: say that his parents do find him a girl to marry.from their same caste and stuff.and say that he marries her..after the marriage do u think he will continue to have a relationship with me and contact me and stuff...because he is like a flirty type..even when he used to hang around w/ me he wud still contact other girls..n you kno how they say, ONCE A CHEATER..alwys a Cheater??
2006-12-03 10:48:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ANd I AM NOT saying that HE shud cheat on his wife wit me or anything after marriage..I am just wondering..is this what he mite do? is it possible? for him to continue to be sexualy involved with me..? and what shud i tell him..if he decides to marry..should i just be like dont contact me anymore? or lets maintain a strictly frendly relationship? what wat??
2006-12-03 10:49:59 · update #1
I'm sorry, but any girl who has sex with someone, and then wonders whether or not he likes her is not ready for a steady relationship.
2006-12-03 10:53:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is clear from your email that you are not thinking about what YOU want. Do YOU want marriage? If so - get away from him because he's looking at others for marriage which proves that sex meant just sex for him. (Even though it meant a relationship for you).
If you want sex - I agree - find somebody LOCAL. Don't let this guy have his cake and eat it too! Wife in NY, sex-buddy in TX!
As for your question - what will he do with you after he marries. I aint a mind-reader but my guess is he may keep you as a mistress. Now you have to think about whether YOU want that. Do you want all the secrecy, double-life and drama? Or do you want to be emotionally free to choose someone else - a good man - for marriage? If you're having this drama-filled, long-distance secret thing going on, you'll never have a clear enough attitude to get married to a good person. .
2006-12-04 23:10:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word 'doormat' comes to mind! Snap out of it!!!!! This guy stays in touch with you 'cause you give him the good stuff all the time. If he's Indian and his parents are looking for a spouse for him, yer done, except for the sex. Now ask yourself, "Am I so insecure and valueless that I'll continue to have sex with some guy who'll never marry me and who is MARRIED to another woman and lives about 1500 miles from me"? If you're so horney you need to be having sex all the time, find a steady local guy you like and who treats you well. If you like being USED, stick with this guy and start referring to yourself as a doormat! P.S.: If you stick with your Indian buddy, better hope his wife doesn't ever find out about you! P.P.S: I'm not even going to address the fact that you already know he's foolin' with other women.
2006-12-03 10:57:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what he will or won't do. You are in Texas, he is in NY. Find someone in TX. This is way too much drama. First of all, he is using for sex. Once a cheater always a cheater...yep. You need to break it off and devote your time to finding someone that deserves you. Someone you can trust. Don't sell yourself short.
2006-12-03 10:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go long term with him haha. he might not mean marraige right away but you never know what can happen.
if he loves ya lots, he wont let his parents find a girl for him, he'll take you.
since you said hes the flirty type, he might still have a friendship with you, i doubt anything more, unless he rly likes cheating.
i do agree with once a cheater always a cheater. so he might cheat on her with you.
2006-12-03 10:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you ask a question that you know the answer to.? The way you start out a relationship is always the way it ends. You started out as sexual partners not friends. So basically your relationship is just sexual. Just take it as it is with no strings attached.
2006-12-03 10:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by Bambi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, are you expecting for us to tell you what to do with your life? whatever you decide to do is your business..sounds to me he is just having sex with you and is thinking of going steady with you, but if you dont feel the same way , just let him know you only want a sexual relationship and nothing seriuos,,so that he can go and find a woman who is willing to settle down..he might want to still bang you i mean hey if its free sex lol men wouldnt reject it..now if he marry's and he has awandering eye then thats his wifes business..unless youre the wife, which in that case you should dump him..but anyways..make your own decisions and stop trying to figure this guy out,,if you want to knw abou him,,ask him...
2006-12-03 10:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by sinful vampyra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your his mistress
the relationship he wants with you long term is as a mistress
he will never marry you
2006-12-03 10:50:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no no. believe me he is a big cheater .he will use and leave you.he will never marry you.and this he will cheat you and his wife as well.
2006-12-03 10:55:33 · answer #9 · answered by reva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did u ever stop to think that u may be a lil crazy......why even get involved in the first place!
2006-12-03 10:51:35 · answer #10 · answered by greenmm0500 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋