I really cannot stand to be around my parents. Throughout my entire life they have just been the most condescending people. Actually my entire extended family has done it to me. I'm naturally small, baby faced, and shy, and they;ve treated me like I'm 5 years old for my entire life, I'm 18, no matter how mature I've acted. And it kills me. It's really damaged my self-esteem and I am so nervous when I am with them, afraid that if I see someone I know they're going to say something condescending. It's gotten to the point where I take the word "cute" from anyone and it's the most condescending insulting thing they could say. I cannot feel like an adult if I'm near them. I swear I was away from them all day for the first time in months and I was so much more relaxed, and happier, and it let me sort things out. Just being able to interact with people without them inserting their own little opinions and snide little comments. I just don't feel like its fair though. They insult me and I make it perfectly clear that it offends me and they don't stop. They;re just like "you have no sense of humor", and they get piss y if i get the slightest bit upset. It's like they don't want to offend me but they can't help themselves. They really can't stop making fun of people, that's how they are, they'll never change, but I just can't take it. i feel like it will be better when I move out, because then I'll probably only have to deal with them a few times a week, but I can't take it 24/7. And I'm going to the community college next year and I know they're going to make me live with them for another 1-2 years. I know they don't want me to grow up but I feel like they're being selfish. But I feel guilty because I know they love me and they pay for things for me, even things I don't want them to pay for. I just don't know what to do. It will never change, so I don't know what the point of telling them is. And I'd like to support myself more but my parents are so against me getting a job. I told my mom I got turned down by radioshack and she was like "thats the best news I've heard in a long time." I know she's worried that employers are going to be nasty to me but if she knows how important a job to me that's just disrespectful. That's what I mean by the disrespectul snide little comments. I guess I'm just going to have to not listen and get a job even if they don't like it. Do I have a right to be upset?
2006-12-03 10:46:33 · 5 answers · asked by leena 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
your family is JUST like mine except mine complains cause I don't work "you are too lazy too work..I bet you didn't even look for a job"..BLAH..BLAH..BLAH..If I were you..I would get an apt and move out or go another college that has a dorm and live in it and then you can work.. You are an adult..your parents cannot control you once you move out (though they will try ..I am 35 and mine still do)...NOBODY deserves to be treated like you are and as long as they have a chance they will treat you like that..If they know it bothers you they will keep doing it..as a therapist told me last week..get rid of the poison in your life..My family makes me depressed and suicidal..they treat me like yours treats you...GL
2006-12-03 10:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by chilover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting upset is not helping matter at all just sit down and tell your parents you are not a baby anymore and wants space to grow up without their support. Tell them you are older now and would like them to not say things which you have said that is in- appropriate to you. I believe having a little talk with your parents about how you actually feel will solve most of your problems.
2006-12-03 10:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess you have the right to be, but you also have the right to make your own choices. you said they wont let you move out or get a job. come on your 18 stop acting like a child and maybe they would not treat you as one. go out there get a job, save the money to get a place of your own.you may want to get a room mate for a while. because living on your own is not cheap.good luck! start acting like an adult.
2006-12-03 10:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset, you're 18, you're grown, if you want a job then get one. I know it's hard but ignore them to the best of your ability. Every time they make a comment just make some sarcastic comment back, no offense, but it sounds like they're the kind of people who won't care if you get sarcastic back. Do what you gotta do.
2006-12-03 11:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by Chicklet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea u have the right to be upset of anything!
2006-12-03 11:13:53 · answer #5 · answered by FP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋