so my boyfriend which i live with. which things are going to downhill with, which is pretty clear we wont last forever so why stick around... right?
well i let him borrow some money to get his car fixed a few months ago because i thought it would be easier for him to pay me back over time than some friend. and i trusted him than.
plus
he backed into my car one day leaving the driveway on accident. mad about some stupid **** and not paying attention causing lots of damage to my new car i bought for myself.
i dont know if im going to see this money if i just move out. or if i leave him. or maybe he isnt ending things till he can afford to pay me back because he feels bad?
or am i pretty much screwed over. and should leave him and take him to court.
2006-12-03 10:46:04 · 16 answers · asked by bqbalchick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Beat it out of him! Or take him to court.
2006-12-03 10:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much he owes you and what your main priority is at the moment. If its a couple hundred dollars you might just want to write it off and get out of there for your own sanity. Even if $200 seems like a lot it may not be worth the pain and effort.
If it is a lot more money you could try to have him sign an agreement. Might be tough during a break up. But, worth a shot. At least if he signs something acknowledging he owes you, you could take him to small claims court down the line.
In the past, I've had my own expensive life lessons. Every once in awhile I think it would be nice if so-and-so had paid me back the money--but in the end I'm a better person for having learned the lesson and the money wouldn't have benefited me that much anyway.
Good luck!!
2006-12-03 10:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by jered_gold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to have what he owes you in writing. You should get 2 estimates to fix your car and also write out the money you loaned him for his car...get a reciept from the repairs if you can, and make a payment plan for him. Ask him to commit to a certain amount every week or every month, whatever, but an arranged payment plan and have him sign it. You can get it notarized if you want to at the post office, but it's really not necessary. Keep track of each payment he makes or misses. This way, maybe he'll take you seriously and start making payments to you. If not and things go down hill, you'll have everything you'll need to take him to small claims court if necessary. As for the relationship, it doesn't sound like you really care much either way.Only you know if it's worth it to "stick around".
2006-12-03 10:56:39 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with getting the money back unless you take him to court. He sounds like a loser borrowing money from his girlfriend! Your life would be much easier if you leave him now and find a guy who can support himself. I'll be looking for you on Judge Judy!
2006-12-03 10:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he sign anything saying he would pay you back?? If not, it will be hard to prove and get much out of... But in small claims court you can represent yourself and wont have to pay for a lawyer and it will only cost a filing fee.... You have to realize though, he could play dumb and then it's just your word against his...
2006-12-03 10:50:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have proof that he owes you the money take him to small claims court and get your money back but you have to have proof it was a loan and that he caused dammage to your car
2006-12-03 10:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by slp9209 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't heard both sides of the story, but there's an old saying "Don't throw good money after bad".
2006-12-03 10:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by deviatedheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stay in a relationship and be miserable just hoping he will pay you. Take his butt to court and get your money!
2006-12-03 10:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by MANDY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to stay with him as long as u can and start "borrowing the money for shopping". Just don't "borrow" all fo the money at one time.Then if he starts slacking up on the money take his stupid ass to court for the rest of the money after u move out and then break up with him, if you don't want any of your other things missing ar messed up.
2006-12-03 10:53:09 · answer #9 · answered by Leah S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you get it in writing? That is your proof in court.Leave him if things are that bad and try the court for the money.
2006-12-03 10:49:04 · answer #10 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋