my boyfriend, who i love deeply and live a very involved life has recently been very hard to deal with.
To explain. I found out I was pregnant and we deciding an abortion was the right thing to do because of are careers. This was even after he was very against ever ending a life like that, because he recently lost his sister. I felt loved to know he would change his views because he cared about me. Well instead of being their through the process he was out every night at bars, lying advoiding hanging out with me, hanging out with girls behind my back, and than i became a *****, i was hormonal and felt cheated and alone, had no family or friends only he knew i was pregnant. Now that I had the abortion and have forgiven him, he has now continued to yell and pick fights with me ever day. he says i became such a ***** than, yells at me for getting the wrong thing at the store and accuses me cheating, most of all tells me i need to learn to just shut up every time i try to talk to him.
2006-12-03 10:24:59 · 12 answers · asked by bqbalchick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you need to move on and forget him. It sounds like hes the one who is cheating. After having to give up your baby, things can be hard. The last thing he should be doing is fighting with you and accusing you of cheating. Sit down, talk with him and find out if he even wants to be with you. Dont be in a relationship thats not going anywhere and if neither one of y'all are happy.
2006-12-03 10:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOW.
that's when u draw the line with him. or better still, it would have even been justified to do so when he was doing what he did to u...cheating, lying etc. especially not being there for u thru the abortion. that's key in itself. i don't mean to be harsh but if he didn't care enuff about ur feeling or well being at ur worst time of need, then he is not worthy of u in the first place.
i fully understand forgiveness and believe everyone deserves a second chance. the question is, ....how many chances is he up to by now? and more importantly if his actions r repetitive then u know what kind of future this holds for u. it sounds like he would rather party and be with others then u and i know that hurts. I'm sorry for u Hun, but do urself a favor a find or wait for a man that truly loves u and treats u with respect and first of all puts YOU , "FIRST OF ALL"
good luck and may u be happy and loved like u deserve...tc
2006-12-03 18:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by lanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never an easy decision. You boyfriend is going through some pretty heavy emotions right now. That's not an excuse for taking it out on you, though. The more he pushes you away, the worse it's gonna get. You need to give him a little bit of time to sort out what he's feeling, but you need to let him know that this discussion isn't over and that avoiding it isn't gonna make it go away.
2006-12-03 18:33:11 · answer #3 · answered by randomthoughtpatterns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is feeling guilty about it, given what strong anti abortion feelings he had earlier. But he has to stop being a baby about this, and realize 1) YOU didn't force the situation on him - he was there too when you had sex, and 2) you are probably upset as well - afterall, you had the procedure done! Explain this to him, and if he doesn't change, dump his ass. He isn't being there for you, and think how he'd react if something worse happened.
2006-12-03 18:31:24 · answer #4 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should draw the line now! this kind of behavior is not okay. the fact that he got you pregnany before you two were married shows irresponsibility. and then he goes and cheats on you? during the process?!! he clearly is not a good person for you, or anyone else for that matter. you may have loved him before, he may have loved you, but that bond is gone. you really need to get away from him. he is already showing signs of verbal and emotional abuse, who is to stop him from physical?
2006-12-03 18:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by happyinblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Draw the line at not ending the life of your baby. show strenghth and integrity. Do what you know is right in your heart. Sometimes the hardest things to do in our life, is the best thing to do. Goodluck on lifes journey, and may God be with you.
2006-12-03 18:32:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he's dealing with a lot of guilt and remorse. Even though he agreed to the abortion, I'm guessing that he's angry with you and himself. Is there any way you can talk to him about this?
2006-12-03 18:29:54 · answer #7 · answered by Daphney T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it now,DO IT.
he might get abusive you know..(might)
girl although you killed a baby,it was kinda a good choice because that baby might have tied you up with such a (sori 2 say)bad person. now that's a sign..
draw the line nOW
2006-12-03 18:34:42 · answer #8 · answered by gabi c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's picking fights because he's trying to get you to end the relationship (that way he's not the bad guy)...it's sounds to me that he is mad about you getting that abortion!!!
2006-12-03 18:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by FierceClarice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
=0 what a jerk. how long have you been with him? it was his fault in the first place, somewhat leaves you, and then yells about it afterward. i think he didnt know what to do about it before the abortion, but idk what happened afterwards. i would talk to him about it. if he tells you to shut up again, as hard as it may be, leave him. hes not worth thinking about if your not worth it to him.
2006-12-03 18:32:06 · answer #10 · answered by kt! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋