Wanted to know esp what Hindi people thought - I like this girl a lot, but I'm worried some things I'll never understand about her culture/ the language problem, and things I can't even imagine yet!
A white guy with a Hindi girl isn't really something you see every day... so I wanted to know what others thought.
2006-12-03 10:15:11 · 20 answers · asked by needsadviceonlove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I presume u mean Hindu girl not hindi girl... anyway... I do see why ur concerned about the relationship cos yeh there will be a slight culture difference... but for one i dont see why language would be a major issue... i assume her english is good if she stays in england... the fact that u can communicate is great!!!
yeh u might not see it often but then who says that when u do see it, it wont work! u gotta give it a try cos without giving it a try u will never know... u can cross the difficult bridges when u come to it but u deserve a chance at happiness and u never know... this chick might be the one to make u happier than ever!
I'm a hindu girl and if i met the right guy who i had feelings for it owuldnt matter to me if he was asian, white, black... he could have 11 fingers for gods sakes but if i liked him i would give him a chance cos everyone and everything deserves a chance!
my aunt married a white guy back in the 60's and if she could do it then (in an orthodox soceity, running away form home in india to be with him) and u can definitely do it!!! he learnt how to speak gujarati a little and can even swear at me in full blown gujarati! he even knows how to say stuff i dont even know..the best thing was the fact that he learnt how to speak to my grnadmother who after 5 years accepted the relationship! he could hold a proper conversation with her in gujarati
bottom line is, if u try hard enough anything can and will work out...
good luck and i hope that it works out if u decide u want to be with her..
2006-12-03 11:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm ok first things first, shes not a hindi girl because hindi is a language so you say hindu- shes a hindu girl.
alright second thing, there isnt anything wrong when it comes to love, as long as its true and pure love. and i know it might be difficult with the language barrier and what not. but i'm brown and ive had cousins marry outside our culture and the guy pulls himself together and makes an effort to communicate. unless the girl you like doesnt speak english then that might be tricky.
anyways and also keep in mind what the consequences of your actions may be - ie. depending on how strict her family is, they may not be very happy so yeah quite a few things to consider but good luck with that and if you both keep your intentions clean then God bless and i hope all works out.
2006-12-03 10:21:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how she feels. If she has feelings for you as well, then the cultural differences shouldn't be a barrier. I am a Hindu myself and I date white girls, perhaps marry one someday. So I don't see why this should be a problem.
It might help to know the society and culture a bit. Cross-culture relationships need a bit of extra work, where both need to know and understand the world of the other, but i think it is worth the trouble.
2006-12-03 11:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by netwalker01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, Hindi is a language. Hindu is a religion. If you want to date her, learn about her culture. Does she even want to go out with you? If she does, then just go for it. Also, why would there be a language problem? Unless you're in India, wouldn't her English be fine? God, just ask her out and see how it goes.
2006-12-03 10:20:04 · answer #4 · answered by LSD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why shouldn't it work, even with the cultural differences.
If you are both willing to make it work and have the same level of committment in theory it will work. However, it's usually the families which object as the older generation have different values concerning cultural differences.
I do wish you all the best of luck withe this as i feel you are going to need.
Take care x x
2006-12-03 10:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was in college, i had two hindu roomates. one was very very religious. the other was not so much.
the first friend wouldn't dream of it. she thinks it is innaporpriate for a hindu person to go out with a non hindu person. she would tell me how disgusted she becomes at the sight of hindu people kissing non-hindis.
my other friend wouldn't care a bit. her dad was white, she doesn't really believe in god, and she had a very open personality. i know for a fact that she wouldn't mind because she went out with a white boy during the year.
it really depends on the girls values. if she is more religous, she'll probably be more conservative amd might say no. if she is very lax and open, she probably won't mind and might say yes. if she says no, you can still try to be her friend.
good luck!
2006-12-03 11:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by happyinblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well think about it. you could be on here in 5 years thinking 'what if?'.
go for it, if you truly love her. it all depends on her family. if they are traditional then they'll object but more modern hindi families are more accepting. although expect abnormal stares from people on the streets. p.s. as long as your not one of those guys who just use women then you deserve someone decent ;)
2006-12-03 11:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love has no boundaries, the fun bit is that you can learn from her everything that you need to know. There's a million and one reasons why relationships dont work, religion is just one of them.
2006-12-03 10:19:28 · answer #8 · answered by simon m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youve only got one life, give it a go. If something is worth it ,its worth working at.
2006-12-03 11:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by Siany babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can work, but prepare for the backlash from her familiy, and she needs to be prepared and maybe even be willing to accept her family may even disown her, which happens in some circumstances
2006-12-03 11:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by pussycatboi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋