i made my mom cry. i dont know my dad and my mom never talks about him.whenever i ask about him i was get the feeling tht shes lying to me.But NE wayz i asked her old my dad was now and she around 40 but then i kept asking questions and caught her in some of her lies. and i started yellin at her to just tell me the truth! but she started cryin...i feel like an asshole 4 yellling at her like that. do u have any idea on how ican make it up to her?
2006-12-03 10:04:16 · 10 answers · asked by Josh B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i souldnt even nve been worried bout my real dad bc I have a stepdad tht ive alwayz refered to as my dad. so now even worse...
2006-12-03 10:06:02 · update #1
u shouldnt hve to do anythin to make it! shes the one tht needs to tell u bout ur real dad. it doesnt matter if u have a really good stepdad to replace him
u should yell at her some more until get truthful answers.and based on ur previous questions it doesnt seem like ur stepdad is too good of a parent either...
2006-12-03 10:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by Charles B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom shouldn't lie, but you shouldn't yell at her either ( even though she sorta deserved it). The best way to set things straight with everyone; is to have a talk.
Tell your mom what your thinking, don't censor anything. He's your dad, and there's probably a reason for your mom being sensitive about this subject ; my dad tried to kill me when I was inside my mom. So my mom doesn't like talking about him either.
While you're talking, you need to let her know why you are so interested in learning about your dad, you need to let her know that you are a pre-teen, capable of understanding at east part of this mystery she hides.
Overall you have to be honest, and if you still want to find your dad. There's a website, that can track down your relatives, including: mothers, cousins, grandparents, and yes even your father. Sadly it is not free, but it can find his address, phone numbers, and give you a background check, like if he had any criminals activities or got arrested, that kinda junk.
The Website is listed Below.
2006-12-03 19:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by ~luminary legacy~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until tomorrow and apologize. Do it when you guys have some time, she's not running out the door or otherwise stressed out. Ask her when you guys might be able to sit down and talk about your biological dad because you have lots of questions. Tell her that you know it's hard on her, but that she also needs to understand that it's hard for you, too, not knowing stuff.
It's okay to have these questions. I think just sometimes we catch our parents at bad moments. But keep trying to communicate and things will be OK.
2006-12-03 18:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you were wrong for yellin or askin her those questions, you shouldnt feel bad b/c she couldnt tell you the truth I wouldnt make it up to her until she told me sumthin
2006-12-03 18:07:07 · answer #4 · answered by ɷ▫▪вяøκeи;;♥ иøт đefeαтeđ▪▫ɷ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal to wonder about your father if you dont know anything about him. I would just apoligize to her and explain that you want to know the truth and got angry at her because she lied to you. I would be very angry too if my parents lied to me, so I think you are completely justified in your reactions. But if you really feel terrible try talking to her.
2006-12-03 18:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by camm300 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her flowers. Or just get a single rose. Tell her nicely that you're just frustrated and very curious. Hopefully this will work out. Good luck! =)
2006-12-03 18:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by Aimers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her ur sorry n buy her chocolates tell her ud really like 2 know hu ur da is but if she doesnt want 2 talk bout it dont pressure her
2006-12-03 18:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by saoirse d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologise and make her understand(nicely) that youd like to know and that shell have to tell you eventually
2006-12-03 18:07:30 · answer #8 · answered by Charmed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her srry and that it was out of line to do that and all u want to know is the truth and say i love you and plz
2006-12-03 18:08:37 · answer #9 · answered by babygirl_72560 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say but maybe she just has some kind of trauma caused by your father...
2006-12-03 18:08:35 · answer #10 · answered by kamqx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋